Do you ever....

...let your baby go for the night with a family member so you can have a break? If so, how often?

I really need help with DD. I know this. I'm willing to admit it now. But I see so many women on here saying they didn't let their kids go with anyone for 3-4 years old. I just feel so guilty, and I don't think I should. DD has been going with family for a while now... I really don't think I could have done any of this on my own, and I'm telling myself I don't need to feel guilty. Bleh.

Are there mommies here that needed extra help like me? Did anyone try to make you feel bad for it?

I don't have it, but would love some help. More so during the day than at night. But I have never let DS spend the night with anyone (he is 16 mo) because I don't have anyone. If his grandparents were around I would do it probably once a month so hubby and I could have a night and my son could develop a close bond with his grandparents like I did.

She's never stayed the night with anyone and she's 20 months old. This weekend will be her first time, she'll be staying with my mom because SO thinks I deserve a break and we need to spend time together.

Everyone needs a break every now and then, I just couldn't handle letting her stay anywhere overnight.

Macie spends every Saturday with my mom. She LOVES going over there, and it gives me a break.

Nobody gives me smurf for it. Me and so work full time, and so actually works 50-70/hrs a week, so if we can find someone we take it. My mil would take lo, more if I would let her...she lives 5houra away, and takes him for a week at a time.

I let my son stay over at his grandmothers once every two or three weeks, but I didn't start until last month, he's 3.5 ys old. Don't feel guilty, we all need breaks

My little one isn't here yet...but since I'm going to be a full time student when he gets here, and his daddy is gonna be working full time (fingers crossed), he's gonna be spending the night in my mom's room sometimes.
I think if you need the help, and you're not taking advantage of people...there's no need for the guilt. Some people are lucky and can do it without the help, and others have to use the help that's given.  

My parents live 3 hours away so once a month they come to town and take the kids for a night. I LOVE IT   Theyve been doing it w DS since he was about 2 and DD is only 9 months old she doesnt like to be away from me for that long but they would keep her and I would let them! Sometimes you just need a break dont let anyone make you feel bad about it! Im a SAHM so im w them all day everyday. I dream about those weekends!

That's terrible that anyone would make you feel badly for it!

A friend of mine had her daughter stay with her mom every Saturday night (I think it started around 2 months or so, but I could be mistaken). Other friends children stay with family every month or so, it started under 6 months.

The first time my daughter was away from us she was about 18 months. My son was around 23 months (his one, and only time away) but he does not sleep through the night yet and I feel guilty making anyone else get up with him. My daughter was sleeping through the night around 16 months, so I felt much better about that.

Yup all the time. At least four or five nights a month.

DS is 18 months... We have let him go 3 times. Only to SO's parents and usually for about 14 hours (6 p.m.-8 a.m.). It's nice to have time to yourself every now and then. I absolutely see nothing wrong with it on occasion. A girl on my FB said once to me, "Omg you're so brave. My son is 16 months (DS was 8 months the first time) and I still haven't let him spend the night away." It wasn't rude but it made me feel like smurf at the time.

I would let DD because I need a break, bad.
But SO says no.

Im smurf out of luck  

I think if I had bottle fed and anyone asked to keep them overnight after the first couple of months, I would have said 'yes' (though I would have felt guilty since they would have to get up frequently). But since I breastfed, it just made sense that I got up with them, I didn't want to have to pump, I hate pumping!

my dad would take DS for a weekend about once a month.
every momma needs a break sometimes. and there is no reason someone should make you feel badly for needing some time to yourself.

DD slept out twice before the age of 4 because she hated being away from us. Now that she's comfortable sleeping out she'll do it once or twice a month.

DS is 15 months and has slept out 8 times in his life.

Lately my Mom has been getting into the habit of wanting both of them for a sleep over once a month. I have no objections, it's nice to get to sleep once in a while. Lol.