Question

DH came home Monday asking for a divorce.
We agreed that this week he could have her Wednesday and Thursday. from 12-8.
He wanted me to give him some gas money tomorrow. Well I told him he would have to find my ID at our house, he said he would later, that his friend was there to pick him up. He said he was turning off his phone.
I called his friend because I needed to make a plan, and his friend said he never picked him up. I went to our/his home and he is not there. So I know he is with another woman. Which it hurt, tomorrow would be our 3 year wedding anniversary. But now I dont know if I should send her with him this week. This is all really new and painful. I will not have her be around some other woman that he has been banging. We already agreed that in the parenting plan, there will be no overnight guest and no s/o introduced until the other parent has met them.

So I guess my question is, do I send her with him tomorrow?

Ugh im going to keep ranting because I need too.
He asked for the divorce, man up and tell the truth that you are smurfing some woman. He's done it before. I mean smurf, UGH!

I would not send her.

of course you do. what he does relationship wise has nothing to do with him being a parent. He's still her father...

Hell NO! I wouldn't want my daughter around someone I haven't met yet, and since he lied he can't be trusted to not take her around some random woman. I'd be so pissed. Tell him when he respects you enough as the MOTHER of his child then he can see his child without you supervising. I wouldn't completely not let him see her, just not alone. Other women most of the time can't be trusted and they are scandalous with men's children. Next thing you know she'll have pics of YOUR kid on her facebook and what not.

Quoting I can see you:" of course you do. what he does relationship wise has nothing to do with him being a parent. He's still her father..."

Unless it's someone he has been seeing for a while and OP has met the woman then I don't think it's right to let your kid around just anyone.

no, but unless he is endangering the child... it'll just look worse on her for keeping her child away from her father. He has the right to make parenting decisions too. Unfortuantely, after divorce, it's something we loose control of. We no longer are involved in all decisions with parenting.

I told him for the time being there will be no over night visits. My DD is 2. I have been a step mom, i've been though this. There is a right way to do it.

I just can barely breathe, my heart is so broken.