Quoting Captain Obvious:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Zombie_Girls *:</b>" that's crazy. I don't believe in punishment ... [snip!] ... in punishment for not going poop on the potty, that's ridiculous "</blockquote> its more like not getting a reward."
I understand the "punishment" part of it. Sometimes it's more of enforcing a boundary and not being able to get that reward. We have to do that sometimes with Jacob.
We were lucky with Jacob. And force potty training upon him, and thankfully (and unfortunate to him), his SN played a big role. We refused to give him diapers. And then had him "help" clean up the mess. The combination between not wanting to help clean up(even if it was just watching), and being dirty forced him to potty train within a month. He was almost 3. Although, in my defense, at that time we didn't know just how special he was.
I unfortunately don't have any suggestions. My answer was easy and simple and worked for us.
but if that's what they say you should do, I understand giving him a punishment. You may just have to force him into it eventually, especially if he's understanding the difference between going on the potty and NOT going on the potty