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well, you should never offer a punishment if your LO doesn't want to go poop.

he's probably not comfortable yet with going poop on the potty...my 3 year old is also delayed & she won't go peepee on the potty but will go poop.

so, every child is different, he will poop on the potty when he is ready.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Zombie_Girls *:</b>" well, you should never offer a punishment if your LO doesn't want to go poop. he's probably not comfortable ... [snip!] ... she won't go peepee on the potty but will go poop. so, every child is different, he will poop on the potty when he is ready."</blockquote>

His teacher who is a real elementary ESE teacher has told me that when he refuses to even try to sit on the potty a punishment should be given, today it was that he is not allowed to decorate his pumpkin that hepickedat the pumpkin patch yesterday.

Quoting Captain Obvious:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Zombie_Girls *:</b>" well, you should never offer a punishment ... [snip!] ... should be given, today it was that he is not allowed to decorate his pumpkin that hepickedat the pumpkin patch yesterday."

that's crazy.

I don't believe in punishment for not going poop on the potty, that's ridiculous

<blockquote><b>Quoting Zombie_Girls *:</b>" that's crazy. I don't believe in punishment for not going poop on the potty, that's ridiculous "</blockquote>


its more like not getting a reward.

Quoting Captain Obvious:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Zombie_Girls *:</b>" that's crazy. I don't believe in punishment ... [snip!] ... in punishment for not going poop on the potty, that's ridiculous "</blockquote> its more like not getting a reward."

I understand the "punishment" part of it. Sometimes it's more of enforcing a boundary and not being able to get that reward. We have to do that sometimes with Jacob.

We were lucky with Jacob. And force potty training upon him, and thankfully (and unfortunate to him), his SN played a big role. We refused to give him diapers. And then had him "help" clean up the mess. The combination between not wanting to help clean up(even if it was just watching), and being dirty forced him to potty train within a month. He was almost 3. Although, in my defense, at that time we didn't know just how special he was.

I unfortunately don't have any suggestions. My answer was easy and simple and worked for us.

but if that's what they say you should do, I understand giving him a punishment. You may just have to force him into it eventually, especially if he's understanding the difference between going on the potty and NOT going on the potty

Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:" I understand the "punishment" part of it. Sometimes it's more of enforcing a boundary and not being ... [snip!] ... him into it eventually, especially if he's understanding the difference between going on the potty and NOT going on the potty"

Yes, I took away the diapers when we're home as well.....I get embarrassed to not put a pull up on him when we go out though because he has a horrible track record. A few months ago he pooped his pants at Universal Studios and all the balls were falling out of his pants on the way to the bathroom   (ok kind of funny in hind sight) and then the other day we just went to see my friends new house. She had literally just gotten the keys the night before and he pooped on her floor...  

Quoting Captain Obvious:" Yes, I took away the diapers when we're home as well.....I get embarrassed to not put a pull up on ... [snip!] ... just went to see my friends new house. She had literally just gotten the keys the night before and he pooped on her floor...  "

You just may have to suffer through it until he gets it. Who knows?

Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:" You just may have to suffer through it until he gets it. Who knows?"

I'm scared he's going to go to high school pooping his pants  

Quoting Captain Obvious:" I'm scared he's going to go to high school pooping his pants  "

I'm scared mine is going to even GRADUATE from high school, so I know that fear.

I don't know what else to tell you. Luck played a lot into our situation of force potty training. And it worked. Has anyone else offered you suggestions? His teacher?

Will he "go on command?" Or does he fight it then too.

Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:" I'm scared mine is going to even GRADUATE from high school, so I know that fear. I don't know what ... [snip!] ... And it worked. Has anyone else offered you suggestions? His teacher? Will he "go on command?" Or does he fight it then too."

Yes I can totally relate, I have sleepless nights about my son going to kindergarten next year, sad huh?

His sensory issues cause his diet to be horrible and he's not getting enough fiber so on top of everything his poop is extremely hard and it hurts him every time he goes. I'm going to ask his dr about a fiber supplement.