Quoting Khryztal:" Im gonna edit the post. because the DID told her. Its only her that do not accept it. im just looking for somebody who HAS BEEN THRU this kind of situation to be able to help her"
Yeah, it sounded to me like they hadn't told her for sure yet. Lol, no, I've never been in the situation. But I don't think that rules out the ability to offer some advice.
Like someone else stated, she may need some counseling for it. And like I stated, just be there for her. Let her know that it's okay, and special needs or not, she's going to be a great mom and the baby will be loved and supported as well. She may need a little time, as well. She just gave birth and I can't imagine how hard that would be to hear.