re: What would you tell your nurse after your loss?

I had to go to the hospital for a miscarriage earlier this year (i was 12 weeks along when i found out by ultrasound ... well the night i went to the hospital because i was bleeding and was having contractions which felt like labour would have made me 13 weeks). To the er nurse when i first went in, i would tell her to go smurf herself for being rude and making me feel worse the entire time i was in the er and maybe to consider getting a different job. She had such a nasty tone in her voice and spoke to me with an attitude. After everything had happened she asked how heavy i was bleeding and i asked if she wanted to check my pad because she didn't understand me when i said it was "a lot" (i thought it was normal because after giving birth to my kids the nurses sometimes checked my pads to see how much i was bleeding and it never seemed to phase them) but this lady looked at me all disgusted, scoffed and said "no thanks" and walked out. I felt so embarrassed (the doctor came in shortly after and asked to see my pad anyways) Later my mum came in to check on me and bring me some clean pants and undies because i had bled through mine (i was alone before that) and after a while she said something that made me giggle a bit, i forget what it was but it's not like i burst out laughing. but then this nurse walked in gave me an evil stare and said "i wouldn't think that this would be something to laugh about". I just .... i don't know if i was over sensitive but that pissed me off it made me feel so bad about myself that i went back to crying again, i wish i had said something to her (it's not like i was laughing about miscarrying).

I would love to thank the nurse that i had after they sent me to the maternity ward, she was sweet. She was an older lady and was checking me when i first got up there and she actually apologised for me having to be sent there (To the maternity ward, listening to all the newborns crying ) and i remember her saying "it's just not fair that these things happen". I don't know there was something about her that was so comforting especially compared to the nurse from the er.

The others i had weren't rude or anything they pretty much left me alone the whole time and didn't say anything to me, just checked my bp, took blood, arranged tests ect, one made me feel bad for refusing the d&c but i ignored it.

Sorry i didn't think that was going to be so long. Just thought i'd share.

I would tell the whole hospital a HUGE FU! The dr decided to induce me so i went into the hospital at 7 am. the first nurse was really rude as she hooked me up to the fetal monitors. When she saw my stretch marks she commented saying "why dont you have quite the road map on your stomach! didnt you know how to get here on your own?" she didnt sound like she was joking and it made me feel even more self conscious then i already was..

the doc then came in and put a gel on my cervix to help start labor. within a few minutes i was in A LOT of discomfort and pain but it wasnt contractions it was more like one huge contraction my whole stomach was tight and i just had the feeling that a hot bath would help.. (there was a tub connected to my room) the nurses sad that i was not allowed to get in a tub and instead brought me a 2 liter bottle of hot water which was way to heavy to put on my already sore stomach.

they finally decided that i needed a c-section. after the c-section they did not let me see conan for 4 hours. and wouldnt tell me anything about him except that he was fine and with my family.

there was sooo much more that went wrong and just pissed me off but this is long enough. i will never go there again and i will never suggest that hospital to a friend

My son was stillborn at 23 weeks, but i had been in the hospital for a little over a week when i had him. The nurse who started the whole induction process was amazing. She had been there and held my hand through the majority of the week. It's funny but she was the least personable nurse I had in the beginning, but I guess I wore her down. Anyway, her shift ended and I was still in labor so the dr made her leave and promised to call her before i delivered. Unfortunately for me, 2 hours later, labor went from slightly uncomfortable to 'I'm ready to push'. The nurse I had then didn't know me and told me she wasn't going to call the nurse because the other nurse had a life outside of the hospital. I told her the baby was coming and she ignored me. I told her she might want to hurry and she still ignored me. I had the baby on the bed before she decided to check me.

The first nurse ended up calling me at home after I had my son. She told me she went to see him and how beautiful he was. She said she was so angry at the nurse and the dr for not letting her know what was going on.

After that, whenever I had a baby, even though she is now a teacher instead of an active nurse, she ends up showing up with a class of students. She's been there for the labor of my first 2 and the delivery of my 3rd. I saw her crying when my youngest was born.  

I had a miscarriage in June of 2010. It was my first pregnancy and I was five or six weeks along. Wasn't totally sure. The nurse was SO rude to me. Before I even knew I was pregnant, she told me they needed a urine sample by catheter because I was bleeding. Well, I flinched once because it hurt and she seriously got right in my face and screamed 'HOW OLD ARE YOU?' I replied with '....22.' And she said 'YEAH WELL THEN STOP BEING A BABY AND LET ME PUT THIS THING IN!' So I burst into tears because I guess maybe I am a baby and she just acted disgusted with me.

And then she told me if I was pregnant (didn't know for sure at that point) that she doubted it was my boyfriend's (now husband) because we weren't married and that means I probably cheated on him. Then said that if -I- didn't cheat on HIM then, well, he was sleeping around behind my back. I hated her. Once I found out I was pregnant after she was gone and that I was miscarrying...it made it all worse. ):

I try to remind myself I wouldn't have my son had I went through that pregnancy, though. Would have loved to have met that baby but I am beyond thankful for Felix!

Quoting emmygog[Felix's Mommy]:" I had a miscarriage in June of 2010. It was my first pregnancy and I was five or six weeks along. Wasn't ... [snip!] ... my son had I went through that pregnancy, though. Would have loved to have met that baby but I am beyond thankful for Felix!"

What is with some of these horrible nurses!? I just can't believe some of these experiences!! I could NEVER imagine treating someone like that!!

Quoting LRX:" What is with some of these horrible nurses!? I just can't believe some of these experiences!! I could NEVER imagine treating someone like that!!"

I think sometimes when they see this sort of thing all of the time without any sort of personal experience, they become kind of immune to the situation people are in.

My last one, my nurses were amazing. Even took time to sit down and talk to me, and to give me the blanket my daughter had been wrapped in.

My third one, they offered me a pizza and a 2-liter. Yeah...cause what I want right now is a pizza party...sucky ass consolation prize.