3 guys believe they are the father of my baby

Its a smurffest. 1 is my on again off again off right now boyfriend of course he saw the box the test came in and automatically assumed it was his baby the other guy is my best friend's best friend. I told her and she told him and he texted me asking me what I was doing about the baby. The other is someone that I'm interested in we had sex and I believe it's his baby so I told him that it was. Two of them live in the same state as me.. the baby is here now and two of three have seen her. I've been looking at her trying to figure out who she looks like the most but she looks just like my dad   I've already gotten child support from all of them and one has kept her over night. The one from out of state is making plans with me to bring us over there for a week so that he can see her and he's the one I want to be the dad.

I'm in so deep with this that I don't know if I can find my way out of it. I've lied so much that I don't even know the truth anymore. All of them are great men, what were the odds? My older daughter's father is a son of a bitch and I found 3 men that are worth something and two of their hearts are gonna be broken? FML. I don't know how to even begin to start telling them the truths.

All THREE of them have given you child support?! ok..

Get a paternity test, asap. Its not fair to them.

Quoting Tikaytasha:" All THREE of them have given you child support?! ok.. Get a paternity test, asap. Its not fair to them."

 

SERIOUSLY.

You don't think to deal with this 9 mths ago, or the second that the baby arrived?
I won't judge you for possibly having 3 potential dads but taking money from them and lying is just wrong on so many levels.
You need to woman up and deal with it. Be honest and tell them all everything. If they are truly good men, the dad will stick around.

Quoting Tikaytasha:" All THREE of them have given you child support?! ok.. Get a paternity test, asap. Its not fair to them."

Yeah she's almost 2 months old now.
I will. I think I'm going to tell the one that I'm going away to see first

You have to stop immediately. If you go any further, it is only going to get harder. I would immediately be honest with them, you can't control their reaction to your honesty, but it's something you just have to do. You can't do this to them - or your daughter. Good luck.

Get a dna test asap anu u should not have lie u shoulve told them all it was possably theres... I dont ever know wha to say.

I agree, really not fair that all of them are paying child support and being led on.. put yourself in their shoes.

You gotta tell them the truth. It's not fair that 2 of of those men are paying for a child that isn't theirs. This isn't about you, and how bad you will feel after telling them. This is about being fair to those men, and to your daughter. What is going to happen when your daughter gets older, if you keep stringing all 3 along, who will you tell your daughter her dad is?

Definitely just tell them all ASAP. It's not fair to them and its obviously taking a toll on you emotionally.

It doesn't matter who you want to be the dad. It's awful that you're taking advantage of all three of these guys, plus letting them get attached to a baby that might not even be theirs. And what's worse, letting your daughter bond with them and leaving her with guys that might not even be her father...

I'm not even judging you for having 3 potential fathers...

The longer this goes on, the more attached they are going to get. Not too mention what is it going to do to your child? Be honest as you can - say you need a paternity test done. You will need one anyways to get child support (legally) and for their names to be put on the birth certificate. It shouldn't matter who you want to be the father, they all deserve to know and you are very fortunate you have THREE that want to be there. Do the right thing. You will be setting a much better example to your child in the long run.

I hope once you find out who the father is, you give that "child support" money back to the other two men who've dumped cash in for a child that isn't their's.

Well, I'm sure you know just how wrong your situation is. I hope to God that you stop leeching off the two who aren't the father and build a relationship with the one who IS the "baby daddy." And taking their money knowing that they may/may not be the father is wrong and trifling.

Oh wow.. That`s why you should only sleep with 1 guy at a time lol. The best thing to do is a PATERNITY test.. You shouldn`t be collecting child support from more than 1 guy. The best thing is to be honest.