My daughters father has it good, I wasn't raised to run after a man. When I had his child and he was in & out of her life, I've never made it a big deal. I always thought the time I spend running after him trying to make him be a father could be used on me being a good mother, so for 3 years whenever he came around I let him see his daughter, but then I realized if I am a full time mom, what gives you the right to be a part time dad. So, I moved on & haven't looked back. My daughter has plenty of people that love her and my father, uncles and cousins have been a wonderful male role models.
I know it's hard being a single mom, but please don't waste all your time and energy trying to make a boy become a man. Instead, focus on raising your daughters to be women and your sons to be men, so we can stop the cycle