Quoting Is that still my name?:" I don't know why I feel so bad.... she never would have happened if I didn't lose my son... NONE of ... [snip!] ... I just feel so guilty. It's not her fault I can't get a job... or she stuck with a sad mom.. or no dad... I feel so bad."
I know everything that you are feeling, I have been there. But with how bad my depressions have been I realize that my son saved my life, he is my little personal hero. I know our babies didn't ask to be brought up into a broken family but we can only try to make the best out of the situation. I know you will be able to provided more than what she needs someday, just be patient. I know how hard it is, I'm working on it myself but it will happen and life is going to fall into place.