Don't know where else to go-Long sorry.

Hi Ladies!
So here is my story. I have two teenage boys (17&15), tried for a 3rd but gave up over a year ago and was actually okay with it as I would be empty-nesting at a still rather young age. Now fast forward to 10/9/12, had an appointment with a genetic councilor to determine my cancer risk as I have a pending surgery to remove cysts on my ovaries and a strong possiblity of a hysterectomy to avoid problems in the future. I haven't had a period in 2 months but that is not uncommon because of all my cysts, now I had been lightly spotting for about 10-14 days up to this point, later that afternoon I started bleeding pretty heavily and cramping. My thought, oh finally getting my period, few hours later have gone through a few super absorbency tampons with pretty heavy clotting, concerned but again thought it was due to my period, well, the bleeding got heavier and then I passed a HUGE clot about the size of my palm, this is definitely NOT normal. Decided to go to ER, first question asked, "Are you pregnant?" NO, haven't had sex in almost 2 months, they do a test anyways, about an hour or so later Dr comes back with you're pregnant! SHOCKED, STUNNED!!! OB comes in, sorry but this is most likely a miscarriage sorry, you can go home and I will see you in 3 days. WHAT?!?!?! Friday finally came after many tears, confusion, pain and bleeding. Sorry but this is definitely a miscarriage I will let your surgeon know and she will proceed from there to schedule your cystectomy and possible hysterectomy. I am dumbfounded to say the least. I have put thought of having a baby out of my brain now all of those feeling have come slamming back into my head. I don't know what to do, what to think, what to feel. I'm lost.

I'm sorry I can't offer any guidance but my thoughts are with you. <3

I don't really know what to say except I am so sorry for what you're going through.

so sorry. Thinking of you

So sorry to hear this. I had a miscarriage last year and it was heart breaking- to say the least. I am now 4 1/2 months pregnant with a healthy baby. There are numerous studies out there that have shown that pregnancies preceding a miscarriage tend to be healthy, full-term pregnancies. A few people I have known have also had this happen (healthy pregnancy following miscarriage), so I would encourage you to try again if this is something that you really want. However, the hysterectomy is doctor recommended? It may be more difficult for you have a full-term pregnancy due to the issues with cysts and such- I have also had friends go through that before. I hope you and your doctor can work something out and I'm so sorry for your loss.

So sorry momma  

Thanks ladies!! I think I am struggling to what's next. The hysto is completely voluntary, so I have put off surgery until I figure out what I want to do. Do I really want to start over again at my age when my children are pretty much grown? How are my children going to react? So many questions that I can only answer but have no idea on how. I'm so confused and have no where to vent. Thanks for "listening".

So sorry to hear about your loss!!!! I'm about to turn 20 years old. My siblings are almost 37, next one is 35, and the one closest to me just turned 30. My mom completely started over when she was 35. I was definitely a surprise, but it's not all that uncommon to start over. It just depends on if it's something that you really want to do and that your hubby wants to do. I don't see anything wrong with it