moving in together? wwyd?

my boyfriend and i have been together for about 7 months. we met at work and we were set up through a mutual friend and we clicked instantly. we both have sons about the same age (3 months apart) and we both own our own homes. we both were fixing them up. he was staying at his parents while he fixed up his house. and ive been living in mine but my father moved in and is a control freak and tells me its his house even though he paid nothing for it. well for the past few weeks my boyfriends been hinting about me living with him and two days ago he came out and asked me if i would move in with him when he moves in. i thought id be more excited (which i am excited) but im so nervous! i told him id think about it because i do own my own home. but its small and in a bad neighborhood. one i dont want to raise my son in. and his is a big house on 10 acres..so it was agreed before hand that if it got serious, we would live in his. so thats not my problem..my problem is ive never been away from my parents and on my own..im almost 21 so its obviously time and my dad would like to stay in my house once i move. and i do want to live with him and be a family together and wake up with him every morning and eat dinner together everynight. his house is ready in less then a week and he bought two kittens..one for each of our boys. and he is the best boyfriend ive ever had. he treats me great and loves my son like he loves his own and helps me so much with him and i can see a future with him. but how do i get over this nervous feeling?? we see eachother 3 days a week outside of work and he sleeps over 2 nights a week but moving in feels like such a big step for me.

and i should add that yes we work together , but we dont see eachother really at work except a hi and bye..i had someone tell me not to move in with him if we work together because itd be seeing eachother too much..but we also both are looking at new jobs. just thought i should add that.

I say go for it! You seem really happy with him, and you really see a future with him then I don't see a problem. I've been dating my SO for 4 months, but we've known each other for years and we are already living together. I love it!!   I think just because you two work together doesn't mean much, you two don't really see each other at work as you mentioned. So, I don't see moving in together seeing each other too often. Hell, I cannot get enough of SO.  

wow i didnt realize how much i typed til i came back to the post. thank you for your input. my family agrees that i should at least try it out. they see how much happier ive been and they love him.

Honestly, I wouldn't. Only because you guys have only been together 7 months... You have all the time in the world if you're going to spend 'forever' together.

Good luck in whatever you choose though!!

Quoting brianna & lil bubba!:" wow i didnt realize how much i typed til i came back to the post. thank you for your input. my family agrees that i should at least try it out. they see how much happier ive been and they love him."

Ultimately you have to do what you feel best doing. Don't use where your house is located as a reason to move in with him, or not move in with him. If you are happy and you want to be with him every night and every morning then I don't see a problem with it. As long as you both are really secure in your relationship together (no serious arguments or anything silly), then I don't see how moving in together will make things any different. Have you ever had him over to spend the night with you or vice versa? I know you both live with family, but I guess it is still possible? Lol

I would. If things are going great then why not? it doesn't matter how long you've been with him , SO and I were together 3 months when we started living together ...and were still going strong after 3 1/2 years.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Layla's Momma ♥:</b>" I would. If things are going great then why not? it doesn't matter how long you've been with him , SO ... [snip!] ... with him , SO and I were together 3 months when we started living together ...and were still going strong after 3 1/2 years."</blockquote>



I disagree. I think people jump into things too quickly, the 'honey moon' stage of the relationship isn't over yet and infatuation still can be the overwhelming emotion on the decision. I'm not saying it doesnt always work out, but I personally would want to be a little more positive that the relationship will last. Especially if there's a child involved.
Maybe I'm just a worry wart though. I just want to be sure someone can handle me on my worst days as well as my best, and I don't think you can do that in a matter of only months.