Crying my eyes out.. my baby doesnt like me.

Im crying my eyes out because i dont think my daughter likes me. I started back to work oct 1st and I work part time from 2 to 8 pm. My daughter cries with me all the time and i cant calm her or anything. I try to feed her and she isnt hungry, she doesnt burp and she's not wet, i walk around with her etc. but she just continues to cry. My husband/her father comes in the room and she stops crying and smiles and just has a good time with him. I feel depressed and lonely. My husband hangs out with his friends all day while im at work and my daughter doesnt like me.. i cant stop crying, I feel like smurf. I'm just venting on this page because i have noone else to talk too. I'm so lonely...

I'm sorry you feel that way. There will be periods of time your daughter prefers you over your DH. That's just how it is.

Awww hun I promise she doesn't dislike you. If you are tense when you are holding her because of these thoughts she will sense that and continue to cry.

aww sry doll. This happened to my next door neighbor, the only solution was for her to be the stay at home parent then her daughter readjusted and they where both happy again.

Quoting ShellyShelz:" Im crying my eyes out because i dont think my daughter likes me. I started back to work oct 1st and I ... [snip!] ... i cant stop crying, I feel like smurf. I'm just venting on this page because i have noone else to talk too. I'm so lonely..."

Your daughter doesn't hate you. She is just going though an adjustment phase. Give her time, she will come around. I am sure there was times she wanted you over daddy. Well, for her you was always there and now you are not so the person who is her shoulder to lean on, in your absence, is daddy so that is who she prefers now. Things will go back to normal soon. She just needs time to adjust.

I would like to be a stay at home since she acts this way with me but we cant afford that. Im the only one working and i got the bum end of the stick getting married etc. I like my job and i love my daughter but i gotta work if she is to have a roof over her head and food. I just dont know what to do. She will be fine for a few mins and then she gets bored with me. I try to sing to her, play kiddie videos on yourtube or tv and she doesnt care. she just fusses with me. I dont think im tense, i dont think about it until she is crying all of a sudden and then her dad comes in and picks her up and she is quiet and all fun and games with him. It feels like my heart is breaking.. I remember asking my best friend "what if my daughter doesnt like me when she gets here?" she told me that she would love me etc but she doesnt.

I'm sorry that you feel that way, but the baby doesn't dislike you.
But babies do sense when you're stressed or upset and she may just be feeling it when you hold her. Just relax..the baby loves you.

When I was a SAHM, my son never was happy to see me when I came home from the store or wherever I was at. When his dad came home.. he forgot I even existed. Kind of the opposite of your story, but I still felt like he didn't even like me. But it happens.. they flip flop. Try not to take it personal.
Right now, my kids are on a mommy kick.

Quoting Diana plus 2:" I'm sorry that you feel that way, but the baby doesn't dislike you. But babies do sense when you're ... [snip!] ... he didn't even like me. But it happens.. they flip flop. Try not to take it personal. Right now, my kids are on a mommy kick."

i guess...but she didnt get this way until i started working. When i was 7 months pregnant i decorated my daughters room,even put the crib together by myself. I prepare her bottles before i go to work and as soon as I come home i'm with her... I do everything only to get ignored by her and my husband. My mother just called me and thought it was a joke that i felt like my child didnt like me so now i feel even more like smurf...

Quoting ShellyShelz:" i guess...but she didnt get this way until i started working. When i was 7 months pregnant i decorated ... [snip!] ... My mother just called me and thought it was a joke that i felt like my child didnt like me so now i feel even more like smurf..."

I don't think it's funny.
I had PPD, so I really took it to heart. I really thought my son did not like me. Seriously. I spend alllll day with him and he never seemed happy with me, but was so happy with him. It's like...what am I doing wrong?
But your LO is probably just adjusting to the change. She won't be like this forever. I promise.
Like I said, they flip flop. Esp toddlers. My DD goes into stages of.. I only love mommy..and I love both mommy and daddy. And my son is going through either I love mommy or I love daddy kick. So now, it doesn't even phase me. But it took me a bit to realize that.