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This all sounds very immature..."he did this, so I can do that" If you had an issue with him talking to woman you should've brought it up when you first found out, not bring it up because he's getting mad at you for talking to a guy. Seems like neither one of you can handle talking to members of the opposite sex.

Quoting £egendary £ex:" Exactly, who gives a smurf?   No trust apparently..."

It really just sounds so... childish.

Quoting PANDORAX1:" it was neer an issue, until i was six months pregnant and making a phone call using his phone, and ... [snip!] ... up.... so yeah i still say its okay for him to have female friends, but i also need to know about every single one of them"

L-O-L

girl, get smurfing real.

Quoting PANDORAX1:" it was neer an issue, until i was six months pregnant and making a phone call using his phone, and ... [snip!] ... up.... so yeah i still say its okay for him to have female friends, but i also need to know about every single one of them"

Wowwww.
Yeah. That smurf would NOT fly with me.

Quoting PANDORAX1:" it was neer an issue, until i was six months pregnant and making a phone call using his phone, and ... [snip!] ... up.... so yeah i still say its okay for him to have female friends, but i also need to know about every single one of them"

Yeah... um, well I don't really know how to explain this to you in words without sounding condescending. But it's like those parents who try to shelter their daughters by putting them in catholic school, and not letting them play with barbies, or watch tv shows that involve skanky girls, but as soon as that parent turns her back, their daughter is that catholic school girl getting butt smurfed while doing a keg stand.

You can't stop him from cheating by monitoring his interaction, and you shouldn't have to. If he's going to cheat you don't need that smurf, it's not your job to referee him.

Quoting Legendary Bonnie Beaver:" Wowwww. Yeah. That smurf would NOT fly with me."

Smurf, if I saw that DH was getting pictures from girls, there's not a chance in hell I'd be okay with him speaking to females in the future. If I was even still with him.

If dude is going to do it once, he is probably going to do it again. Whether you know about it or not...Neither of you trust each other. So, if you really care about your relationship, I suggest both of you stop worrying about talking to other people and start worrying about fixing things.

Quoting Legendary Bonnie Beaver:" Wowwww. Yeah. That smurf would NOT fly with me."

Right? omg I would laugh in my partner's face if he said that smurf.

Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" Smurf, if I saw that DH was getting pictures from girls, there's not a chance in hell I'd be okay with ... [snip!] ... your relationship, I suggest both of you stop worrying about talking to other people and start worrying about fixing things."

right, but if you no longer trusted the person... that's the time that you leave, not start monitoring his every single little move. Not by staying w/ the person & dictating what they can & can't do.

OP, if it was just naked chicks from like... porn, then eh. But if chicks were sending him naked pics... umm sounds like he was/is or planning on cheating.

Quoting PANDORAX1:" not worried about you sounding condescending, im not one of those people who ask for opinions and then ... [snip!] ... then yells at you for having one..... i asked what you guys thought, because id really like to know if im doing something wrong"

I think both of you are. Well idk 100% about him, but... something is wrong w this picture for sure.

Quoting PANDORAX1:" not worried about you sounding condescending, im not one of those people who ask for opinions and then ... [snip!] ... then yells at you for having one..... i asked what you guys thought, because id really like to know if im doing something wrong"

I think what you're doing wrong is accepting less than you deserve and then lowering yourself to his level just to keep him.

It's not worth it, and everyone always thinks once the baby is there the man will come to terms with the fact that he has a responsibility to his girlfriend, but I've never heard of this scenario having a happy ending.

Yeah. I definitely agree with Lex. No trust=time to smurfing leave. Not become this obsessive jealous psycho.

Quoting PANDORAX1:" he got a second chance because i broke up with him for a few months, and it really seemed as if he ... [snip!] ... an effort..... but believe me when those text messages popped up i handed him the phone got in my car and left without a word"

so they were texts from other women? so that was the 2nd time he smurfed up?

idk, I would honestly consider leaving.