Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" Do you have friends? You need to have friends outside of your marriage as well. The friendships can give you things your spouse cannot, and your spouse can give you things your friends cannot. "
Quoting Not tellin:" Are you living with "what if's"? You always want the greener grass. The thing is, that grass will need to be watered and mowed as well."And depending on the season that smurf will turn brown no matter what you do.
Quoting That Black Kidô:" Thats a tough situation....one that could possibly lead you to cheat again. What is it you feel he doesnt understand I about you?"He just doesn't get things like if I'm upset he says I'm to emotional & to get over things, he never wants to show emotion & affection when I'mt he complete opposite.. He isn't in to sex when I find that a really big part of a healthy relationship, I try & tell him multiple time specifically what I feel is missing & it's like he doesn't care or whatever.. He sometimes will do things but always goes back to the same ignoring me & unaffectionate.. I just feel like we don't connect on a true intimacy level
Quoting BG Secrets:" He just doesn't get things like if I'm upset he says I'm to emotional & to get over things, he never ... [snip!] ... but always goes back to the same ignoring me & unaffectionate.. I just feel like we don't connect on a true intimacy level"Go to counseling. The reason he is like that may not have anything to do with you at all.
Quoting White Chocolate Milk:" The grass isn't always greener on the other side, it's green where you water it. Try talking to your ... [snip!] ... to him and see if there are some things he can do to help you out. And in turn you need to be willing to do things for him."That's the thing I do tell him all the time, I even straight up say I am unhappy at times & then he will try for a day or so & then it goes back & I'm just like why do I have to keep trying so damn hard when he doesn't it's not like he is mean or anything just emtionless.. & never wants to have sex really like 1x every 2-3 weeks is good for him I also always do things for him buy him random things at the store, leave little love notes, text messages it's like he thinks things like that are dumb when that's whats missing for me..
Quoting That Black Kidô:" Go to counseling. The reason he is like that may not have anything to do with you at all."He won't do counseling he thinks it's a waste of time.. He grew up with out a mom and no other female figures really so I know thats why the way he is, I just wonder do I settle for that or try and see if I can find what I'm missing..