Delivery audience ??

So I am being induced on Friday and its been really troubling me on who I should allow in the room when I deliver. I know that I want my boyfriend there but my mother would also like to be in the room as well. Only problem is my mother gets very edgy in situations such as these and I know that she may stress me out. I have talked to her about and told her that it was nothing personal that I would rather just have my boyfriend in the room when I deliver. But she did take it to heart as if I was trying to take this moment that she wants to share with me away from her. As the days draw nearer I am getting more and more stressed out about this as my boyfriend does not want her there as he knows how she can be in these type of situations. In a way I feel that she should be there to see her grandchild come into the world and I don't want to hurt her feelings. Need some advice???

dont feel bad..i just had my son 2 weeks ago and i was the only one in the room i had no ppl for support not even my mom...at one point i felt exactly like you..i almost felt like i HAD to let her be there but it's whatever you feel comfortable with

I had DH, my mom, and his mom in the room when I delivered.
My mom also gets really edgy and stressed out easily, but she was a lot calmer than I thought. She just left me alone and watched in awe. lol

I was in that situation 13 months ago, except with my INLAWS! They BOTH (MIL & FIL) wanted to be in the room. I said I was not comfortable with it, but they could come to hosp during labor & leave @ push time.
They didn't leave. I was NOT in a position to argue it (@ the time I only cated about PUSHING haha)
It turned out fine, but looking back, I'm upset my wishes weren't respected.
go with your gut & do what YOU are comfortable with  

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Honestly its up to you. If you want her in there, then tell your boyfriend that the baby is coming out of your vagina, so you make the decision lol.

I would mention to my nurses about your mom, and tell them if you nod to ask your mom to step out?

my hospital only allowed 1 person..check first to see if its a possibility or don't let her in have the nurse tell her your not seeing visitors or what not, it can be stressful but remember its about you and your baby and what is best for you.

Quoting Michelle Culliford:" So I am being induced on Friday and its been really troubling me on who I should allow in the room when ... [snip!] ... that she should be there to see her grandchild come into the world and I don't want to hurt her feelings. Need some advice???"

Just do whatever you feel best with. Personally? I didn't want anyone but my husband there .My stepmom would have loved to be in the room. My sister too, but I told them I only wanted him there. They understood and let it go. Your mom will be disappointed, but you just have to do what you're comfortable with.

I agree with PP. Have some kind of code with the nurses and if she gets out of hand they can make her leave. Then you can blame it on them and there will be no hard feelings!

I've decided that this time around I dont want anyone, including my own mom in the room. I haven't told anyone but SO and his Step-mom (since she will have our DD while Im in labor). I'm just going to have SO call everyone after he's born to avoid being pressured about someone else being in there. Just do what you want. Someone might get upset but they'll get over it once the babys here.

DH was the only one in the room. I think its a personal experience. My mom and DH's grandma wanted to be in there and were upset but its my choice not theirs

Do what is best for you! I personally dont care about any anybodies feelings other then mine and my SO (No one else was there when we made him haha) . Both our parents stress us out too much, we decided where not even going have anyone in the room until about 2 hours after our son is born. I want to feed him and bond as a family for a while. They way I look at it is they have the rest of there lives to see your LO, they will get over it. Good Luck!

Thanks everyone! Your advice has made my decision so much easier! I just didn't want to seem cold not having my mother as part of the experience but now I can see that she will be on my terms! Thanks once again!

Quoting Michelle Culliford:" So I am being induced on Friday and its been really troubling me on who I should allow in the room when ... [snip!] ... that she should be there to see her grandchild come into the world and I don't want to hurt her feelings. Need some advice???"

Tell her the truth - you love her and don't want to hurt her feelings but you need privacy.

Personally I wouldn't be cool with giving birth in front of my mother either. You shouldn't have an audience. You should only have people who will support you and sort of cheer you on and make you feel great about everything. Especially with an induction - the smallest thing that makes you lose your focus can stall your labor. And if you're just worrying about your mom stressing, then that's not going to help move things along if you KWIM.