Something is missing

My boyfriend of 3 months is amazing in every way, shape, and form. He is cute, has a lot of friends who love him, has a great family, a law degree, a good job, etc. He has met my son a few times and is great with him! On his way to my house, he always calls to see if I need him to stop by the store for anything. He even ran a full grocery run for me when my son was sick. He also has a backbone when needed. He stands up for himself if I am being irrational about something, or if someone steps on his toes at work. He also communicates his issues. worries, aspirations, etc. He is hilarious, and we have formed several inside jokes. I love his friends, I love his life, and we even have fantastic sex! He has a big penis (YAY!) and when we kiss, I want to have sex with him...

but there is SOMETHING missing and I can't pin it. Sometimes I feel like I really like him, and sometimes I feel like something is off. What is wrong with me? I want this to work, as I know how wonderful this man is. My ex husband was the complete opposite of him, verbally abusive jerk, no communication, just terrible.

I met the new guy 6 months after husband and I decided on divorce. I didn't want to meet someone so soon, but it happened and I feel like maybe the timing is why I am pulling away. Is this fixable? Can I grow into immense love for this man. I can telling he is falling hard for me, and I want to be on the same page. He would spend every second with me if he could, but I make sure to take time apart for the sake of me and my 4 year old son. This is the man I always dreamed of existing while in my miserable marriage but why is it not enough?

Quoting *Wyatts Mommy*:" My boyfriend of 3 months is amazing in every way, shape, and form. He is cute, has a lot of friends who ... [snip!] ... me and my 4 year old son. This is the man I always dreamed of existing while in my miserable marriage but why is it not enough?"

Maybe you feel you are not worthy of this kind of happiness.

you are probably not used to having a good guy around.
Have you met his family?
All I can say from experience is that once your used to an smurf it kinda hard breaking the habit.

He sounds like a great guy. You aren't used to being treated like a princess. Give this relationship some more time.  

Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" Maybe you feel you are not worthy of this kind of happiness."

I don't know...maybe I'm not. Maybe I'm just not ready...but if thats the case, should I wait it out to see if it changes, pull away a little, or break it off completely?

Quoting *Wyatts Mommy*:" I don't know...maybe I'm not. Maybe I'm just not ready...but if thats the case, should I wait it out to see if it changes, pull away a little, or break it off completely?"

I would wait it out.
you never know what the outcome will be

Quoting Petra and Toria:" you are probably not used to having a good guy around. Have you met his family? All I can say from experience is that once your used to an smurf it kinda hard breaking the habit."

I can't go through the "bad boy" things again. I want someone great, but it also scares me a little. I did meet his parents and they are fantastic people. They live in a nice house, on the lake. His dad is an accountant, and his mom works for the Education department of a college near me. They are very sweet and welcoming...and they loved me!

Quoting ★311161.69★:" He sounds like a great guy. You aren't used to being treated like a princess. Give this relationship some more time.  "

I will, but then I worry about the amount of time he is around my son if I might change my mind. The thing is, I don't get much free time away from my son, so sometimes him coming over is the only option. We usually wait until Wyatt falls asleep but lately, he is coming around more often.

Quoting *Wyatts Mommy*:" I can't go through the "bad boy" things again. I want someone great, but it also scares me a little. ... [snip!] ... and his mom works for the Education department of a college near me. They are very sweet and welcoming...and they loved me!"

Sounds good to me.
I would have liked to have a man like that.

Quoting *Wyatts Mommy*:" I don't know...maybe I'm not. Maybe I'm just not ready...but if thats the case, should I wait it out to see if it changes, pull away a little, or break it off completely?"

I would just let it be and see how things are in a few months. Let your guard down a bit and enjoy him.

I think that sometimes the thing that is missing is the "jerk" tendancies that the ex brought in.

My ex could be an jerk, but he was a manyly man. i don't know how else to put it. I'm trying to find the guy that is all that I want without that, but it's hard. The jerk is still a close enough memory to think that something is missing.

When all that I'm missing is the manly man, not the man himself. Because a real man doesn't have to be an jerk to be a man. I think that time will help. I think that when used to a jerk, you think that there is something missing in a relationship. Give it some time, it's still pretty new.