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I dont know how to delete something once its posted, But this is prolly a better place for it.. So no im not trying to spam or anything like that..

Last week i came home from work, (I work nights) And SO sat down with me, As cool calm and collected as he could be.. He proceded to tell me that he was leaving and going back to his home state (IL, aprox 19 hours and 900 miles away from me and his kid) He loves me but isnt "in love" with me.. He needs some space to persue his dream (A degree in mechanics, could take anywhere from a year and a half to three years to get) That he needs to find himself and figure out what he wants for his life. What he doesnt want is a relationship. He says hes not going out looking for one, but we wont be together while hes out there finding himself. He wants us to "Back the hell off and find eachother as people and friends again, and then maybe we can sort somethings out and come back together." "Its really not you, theres nothing you did...to cause any of this.. its me and i need to figure myself out because i cant love and be happy with someone if im not happy with myself"
After three years of knowing this man, and two years of being together, i never thought it would come down to this.. I didnt even think i would be left to pick up the shattered peices hes gonna leave behind.. i DIDNT want to be a single mom, then again..i dont think any of us really do.. I wanted better for my kid.. I wanted to show her that life, and real love is possible..that parents can work together and stay together, wich is becoming more and more rare i feel. Im hoping that he really is being legit about what he says and that it really is that simple.. But my brain wont let it be that simple, I often wonder if there really is someone else, I wonder why we cant do this together.. I wonder why..period.. I wonder if things will work out..or how im gonna get up and do this with out him or anyone else.. I had a dream too..and its not that hard, i wanted a life...with someone to grow old with, children and a house, with a dog..all these things he wanted too..at one point.. untill now.. Let me add that he currently has no job . He doesnt have a job because of an issue with his drivers licence being tied up in IL becasue of a wreck.. (He got in a wreck in his parents car, they didtn have insureance on it, and so the state ate his drivers licence) We are in the works of getting it free'd from the state and so that he could have it here and use my car .. I got a job first because one of us needed an income to at least support the childs needs.. He has been all " Im not Mr.mom" " I need to be the provider" And i get that, and i am working towards getting us there, if he would just focus on the plan wich was, Me get a job for the time being, get his licenced freed up so that he can eaither A get a better paying job then me or B go to school.. You know, i am ok with him leaving me, He needs space, Fine, wanna prusue your dream.. ok i get that.. but you dont have to do all this 900 plus miles away from me and your kid..

Let him leave. But get him on child support... He is a douche for leaving but whatever floats your boat. You can do this.

This doesn't make sense to me.. You just posted this.

You can't delete stuff, but you can erase everything out of your posts and replace with "deleted" or "....".

Quoting JazziRay Carrier:" I dont know how to delete something once its posted, But this is prolly a better place for it.. So no ... [snip!] ... Fine, wanna prusue your dream.. ok i get that.. but you dont have to do all this 900 plus miles away from me and your kid.."

I am so sorry you're going through this.

There may not be someone else, and he could be completely legit, or there could be someone and he's a giant douche. But, in the meantime, regardless of what he's doing, and I can't imagine the pain, heartache, and confusion you feel but, you have to be strong, if not for you, for your daughter. I can't imagine being a single mother and I give every single one the highest respect I can give. It's tough having DH, I can't fathom not having him. I find it so odd, that it was out of nowhere...Has he acted differently? or brought this up before?

Oh well. He's got a kid for life he is responsible for, regardless of being in a relationship with the mother.
Time to get him on child support.

Quoting *Turtles*:" This doesn't make sense to me.. You just posted this. You can't delete stuff, but you can erase everything out of your posts and replace with "deleted" or "...."."

She's probably looking more for support and that doesn't seem to me like she was getting that in her first post.

Quoting *Turtles*:" This doesn't make sense to me.. You just posted this. You can't delete stuff, but you can erase everything out of your posts and replace with "deleted" or "...."."

Right, but it was ment for the single parents section but i couldnt find it when i was going to post it, it like.. wasnt there.. so i posted it in relation ships.. but i wanted it to be here.. not there.. so when i FOUND where i wanted it to go, i moved it there.. hince the "Im reposting it in a better place" state ment

Quoting Vivian [♥]:" Oh well. He's got a kid for life he is responsible for, regardless of being in a relationship with the mother. Time to get him on child support."

  What I said.

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Let him leave. But get him on child support... He is a douche for leaving but whatever floats your boat. You can do this. "

  

Quoting JazziRay Carrier:" Right, but it was ment for the single parents section but i couldnt find it when i was going to post ... [snip!] ... there.. so when i FOUND where i wanted it to go, i moved it there.. hince the "Im reposting it in a better place" state ment"

Ahhh okay. Eh, I don't think it matters where it lands, as long as you're getting responses.

Quoting Jackie Burkhart ♡:" I am so sorry you're going through this. There may not be someone else, and he could be completely ... [snip!] ... fathom not having him. I find it so odd, that it was out of nowhere...Has he acted differently? or brought this up before?"

Read her other thread about this.

Quoting Jackie Burkhart ♡:"   "

Cant file right away, not untill he has reall money comeing in, becasue filing now, will only put him in debt he cant pay, Like.. waiting out school, will get me my money, filing before school they can freeze his accounts, lock his drivers licence, they can make it to where he cant to smurf.. and that gets no one anywhere.

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Read her other thread about this. "

Ok after reading the other thread. Let him go. He sounds just like my ex. I chose adoption. But he didnt want to do it. But I didnt want to parent. But he didnt want him all the time. So we would have to have half time. Yeah no..

Dude seriously smurf him. Its a chance hes going to take in missing his child grow up? Let him go, you and the kid deserves better. Get your smurf in order and forget about him. And you can find someone better that will love your child as much as you do.

Quoting Jackie Burkhart ♡:" "

lol. Well he is a selfish prick.