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Quoting JazziRay Carrier:" I care, because i still love this man.. and i havent given up hope yet.."

I would give up because he has already given up and his mind has been made up. I would leave and file for CS and I wish you the best of luck.

Quoting JazziRay Carrier:" While these are lots of kind words and thoughts, yall are putting more into this then what it is.. ... [snip!] ... was hatefull.. but because this is where i orginally wanted it to go..and could not find earlier.. Its really that simple."

Sorry, lol. I was just trying to help. I do really hope everything works out though hun  

Quoting JazziRay Carrier:" He says he does, But hes not inlove with me.. that he cant be inlove with someone or even have a funtioning relationship if he doesnt love himself and isnt happy with himself."

Please dont take my words as harsh, but then let him go. My ex said that to me and I let him go. Now he is with someone else. I wish I didnt dick around with child support and all that other stuff.

He said he loves you, but isn't in love with you. That is the nice way of telling you he really doesn't love you at all. Understand what I mean?

Quoting JazziRay Carrier:" He says he does, But hes not inlove with me.. that he cant be inlove with someone or even have a funtioning relationship if he doesnt love himself and isnt happy with himself."

Smells like bullsmurf.

I mean, It is completely possible to fall out of love, feelings change. But, I mean, think about your child. If he's willing to just up and leave 900 miles away in the blink of a smurfing eye and not even look back..What does that tell you? He sounds selfish and very much a manchild.

Quoting *Turtles*:" He said he loves you, but isn't in love with you. That is the nice way of telling you he really doesn't love you at all. Understand what I mean?"

I dont see it that way, becasue the man i was with before him.. i was with for six years.. and we ended becasue he was a drunk... and a part of me will always love my ex, he was the first man i slept with, he was my first love out of highschooll ext.. but i would neveer BE with my ex again.. and he and i are great friends, So i know the diffrence between loving someone and being INLOVE with someone..

Quoting JazziRay Carrier:" I dont see it that way, becasue the man i was with before him.. i was with for six years.. and we ended ... [snip!] ... my ex again.. and he and i are great friends, So i know the diffrence between loving someone and being INLOVE with someone.."

Just let the douche go. TRUST ME. IF you do it now you will be better in the long run. And not waiting for someone 900 miles away to come home to you.

Quoting JazziRay Carrier:" I dont see it that way, becasue the man i was with before him.. i was with for six years.. and we ended ... [snip!] ... my ex again.. and he and i are great friends, So i know the diffrence between loving someone and being INLOVE with someone.."

I know that difference too, but why try to make it work with someone who clearly does not want you and is willing to move 900 miles away?

Quoting *Turtles*:" I know that difference too, but why try to make it work with someone who clearly does not want you and is willing to move 900 miles away?"

Becasue i just cant give it up with out a fight, after everything we have been through over the last two years, i know and truely believe hes my other half, maybe hes lost sight of a few things..becasue we have shared some hard knocks.. i just ..cant let go and think that its just over just that fast..there has to be a chance..

Quoting JazziRay Carrier:" Becasue i just cant give it up with out a fight, after everything we have been through over the last ... [snip!] ... we have shared some hard knocks.. i just ..cant let go and think that its just over just that fast..there has to be a chance.."

No offense, but I think you may be in denial.

Quoting JazziRay Carrier:" Becasue i just cant give it up with out a fight, after everything we have been through over the last ... [snip!] ... we have shared some hard knocks.. i just ..cant let go and think that its just over just that fast..there has to be a chance.."

You can let it go. He wants to let it go.... so you let it go.

If you want someone to talk to, you can feel free to PM me any time.

Quoting *Turtles*:" No offense, but I think you may be in denial."

Its possible.

Quoting *Turtles*:" No offense, but I think you may be in denial."

I agree....

Quoting *Turtles*:" No offense, but I think you may be in denial."

This was my second attempt at a realationship.. I just feel like, if this is really it.. i feel embarrased, i feel shamed.. like i was made a fool of if he really just moves back.. We had a life there, we had friends..what will they say.. what will they think.. what will he make them believe.. Why for the second time am i not enough for someone, Now ihave put myself in a huge hole that i cant climb out of on my own..What am i supposed to do.. How do i recover from this.. so that i dont hate him, or myself.. or my child.. And what if he really is being legit.. and hes not gone any longer then he has to be.. and he really does aim to come back..how am i supposed to trust him from then on..

Quoting JazziRay Carrier:" This was my second attempt at a realationship.. I just feel like, if this is really it.. i feel ... [snip!] ... hes not gone any longer then he has to be.. and he really does aim to come back..how am i supposed to trust him from then on.."

First of all, who gives a damn what others think. If he is being legit then you need to accept it and move on. It won't be easy, but it's possible. There are plenty of fish in the sea, so don't think you will never find someone. It may take years, but that's okay. Work on yourself and provide for your LO.