Quoting Chuck Finley.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nyla&Carina's Mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... behavior . There's two sides to every story"</blockquote> He is verbally abusive which is just as bad if not worse."
She doesn't know about OP's real relationship, none of us do. Try walking in her shoes before making judgement. It's obvious that she's put up with this, and had tried numerous things. "Marriage is for life, and women put up with a lot" blah blah blah. It's apparent she can't do anything else for the marriage. I'd leave too at that point.