re: Finally giving up

Verbal abuse can leave lasting mental scars.

OP I pray that you find peace and answers no matter what you decide. From what you've posted here, all I can assume is that he never has anything positive to say. That's abusive and can do massive damage to your self confidence and self esteem. It can lead to depression and that's not good for you or your kids. It's much healthier if you take your kids and get out of that environment.

Quoting Mommatini.:"   This! She doesn't know about OP's real relationship, none of us do. Try walking in her shoes before ... [snip!] ... put up with a lot" blah blah blah. It's apparent she can't do anything else for the marriage. I'd leave too at that point."

Right cause everything is perfect and should be in marriage at any given time no matter what. and when it isnt u should just leave . ok.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nyla&Carina's Mommy:</b>" Right cause everything is perfect and should be in marriage at any given time no matter what. and when it isnt u should just leave . ok."</blockquote>




You should leave if the person is ABUSIVE which clearly he is. Go away.

Quoting Nyla&Carina's Mommy:" Right cause everything is perfect and should be in marriage at any given time no matter what. and when it isnt u should just leave . ok."

And...are you married? Because if not, you really have nowhere to stand on.
And if you ARE married, it's even worse. If you were degraded, you would stick around and let your kids see that?  

Quoting Chuck Finley.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nyla&Carina's Mommy:</b>" Right cause everything is perfect ... [snip!] ... isnt u should just leave . ok."</blockquote> You should leave if the person is ABUSIVE which clearly he is. Go away."

   

Quoting Nyla&Carina's Mommy:" Right cause everything is perfect and should be in marriage at any given time no matter what. and when it isnt u should just leave . ok."

You don't know how long she's been working on her marriage and putting up with this. Nobody said "Oh don't give him any time to change." She's been with him for five years and married to him for two. And regardless of how much time she's been putting up with it, HE'S ABUSIVE. I don't get why you think it's perfectly okay for her to stay and deal with ABUSE. Why does she deserve to be abused? Why doesn't she deserve to be treated better?

You guys are so dramatic, and I could care less about your opinions. All i care about is this girl keeping her family together with a better solution then just leaving n those kids having to deal w/custody battles etc. '

she called him a douche not abusive, calm your hormones

Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):" You don't know how long she's been working on her marriage and putting up with this. Nobody said "Oh ... [snip!] ... okay for her to stay and deal with ABUSE. Why does she deserve to be abused? Why doesn't she deserve to be treated better?"

theres two sides to a story. his side, her side and the truth and until you know both dont throw accusatios around. she never said shes being abused why u puttin words in her mouth

Quoting Nyla&Carina's Mommy:" Right cause everything is perfect and should be in marriage at any given time no matter what. and when it isnt u should just leave . ok."

No... But when the OP stated all of that, then you leave...

Have you been in this spot before? What she is going through is VERBAL ABUSE. And it is really bad..

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nyla&Carina's Mommy:</b>" You guys are so dramatic, and I could care less about your opinions. All i care about is this girl keeping ... [snip!] ... just leaving n those kids having to deal w/custody battles etc. ' she called him a douche not abusive, calm your hormones "</blockquote>




No we are not you are trying to keep a family together that is broken. It could get worse. She should leave now before that point. You aren't in her shoes. You have no idea what it's like to be in an abusive relationship. For her to realize its no healthy is amazing. You should shut your mouth and leave. Your opinion isn't welcome.

 

Quoting Nyla&Carina's Mommy:" You guys are so dramatic, and I could care less about your opinions. All i care about is this girl keeping ... [snip!] ... just leaving n those kids having to deal w/custody battles etc. ' she called him a douche not abusive, calm your hormones "

You dont keep your family together just because of all of that smurf. Again have you been through this smurf?

Quoting Chuck Finley.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nyla&Carina's Mommy:</b>" You guys are so dramatic, and I could ... [snip!] ... For her to realize its no healthy is amazing. You should shut your mouth and leave. Your opinion isn't welcome.  "

But it could better as well. Life is hard, marriage is even harder.

We all have opnions and its upto her on what she wants to do. She one in end who has decide whats best for her and her kids. We cant make that descion for her. Everybody has there opnion and out look on this, but we dont know the whole situation so we can only give our opnion basic on what she says. And she has to decide what she going do in the end.

Best of luck to you and hope whatever you decide to do, it works out.

Quoting Nyla&Carina's Mommy:" But it could better as well. Life is hard, marriage is even harder."

And you've been married....how long again?

Quoting Nyla&Carina's Mommy:" theres two sides to a story. his side, her side and the truth and until you know both dont throw accusatios around. she never said shes being abused why u puttin words in her mouth"

Can you not count? That is 3.. But anyhow... If he is being a docuhe and saying all of that smurf, it is being verbally abusive. I dont even think that what you are talking about is an opinion. Its talking otu of your ass about something that you have no clue about.