For starters I'm in no position at this point in my life to raise a child, I've just gotten myself out of an emotionally abusive marriage of 5 years. I am currently in a relationship with my best friend/soul mate/ love of my life and I couldn't be happier. I had tried for almost 4 1/2 years to get pregnant with my soon to be ex husband and nothing ever happened. I have PCOS and was even taking fertility drugs. Nothing ever happened.

I've been dating my bf since about February of this year and was on bc but my body doesn't agree with it and I end up just bleeding until I stop taking it. I miscarried in May of this year just before my birthday but I had been on the nueva ring and thought maybe it was just my body reacting strangely to it. But since then I hadn't been on bc. I thought that after all these years there was no way I would get pregnant now. Well for some reason since being off bc my cycles became very regular and low and behold this month I was late. I wasn't too worried because I've gone 9 months without a period (and not being pregnant) before. But just because usually when I pee on a stick I start my period shortly after the negative result I thought I'd jump start my period. Well I got a faint positive, after all these years I've never had more mixed emotions about seeing a positive test. I never thought this would happen for me, but it couldn't have came at a worse time. I'm currently living at home with my mom since the divorce and my 23yo bf is at home with his parents (we wont get started on that). Him and I both work and everything but neither of us are ready for this. I've taken 5 pregnancy tests all positive. I'm in shock and denial. I'm not ready to deal with this but I know I have to because I can't wait around. So we talked and decided abortion is the best decision we could make.

My main reason for posting here is because I've read a lot of your stories and I'm glad I found a place where it can be talked about and not bashed. I posted on another site that just made me sit here and cry and feel like a terrible human being. I'm really leaning towards taking the pill but I'm only taking 3 days off from work and I'm afraid that its going to take longer than that to pass. When I miscarried in May (very early) I bleed for 3 weeks until I passed what I believe was the embryo. I'm afraid that because I will be around 8 weeks that the pill is going to be a lot harder to deal with. But at the same time I'm SO scared of the d&c. I've read so many terrifying stories and I don't want any long term accidental damage because I do want children in the future. Sorry this is so long I hope some of you stick it out and read it lol. If you ladies could help me decide whats better that would be amazing. I know ultimately its my decision but its just nice to hear from women who've experienced this which way might be easier for me.

Oh and a side note my bf took the same days off (we were supposed to go on vacation, but instead we will be taking responsibility for our actions). He's going to be staying with me and no one will know whats happening they all think we are going out of town still. I'm just scared and really need some advice since I get to sit here for 2 weeks and sulk in my decision.

I have never had one but best of luck!

I have never had one, so I'm no one to tell you which is better.
Wish you all the best!

I have had the shot to pass a tubal, and it sucked a million times more than my d&c so both are similar to your options. My d&c was waaaay easier.

I have done the pills and the suction and a D&C .. and this isn't about whether you should have the baby or not or a place for people to judge right? like You're doing it and you want to talk about the method.

I say the pill/s.
You can do them at home, you;ll cramp a bunch, bleed, and be done with it. Less complications than suction. No appointment/office/car ride.

I support your levelheaded decision  

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Thank you so much. Yeah I've weighed all my options and my bf will be here to help me get through this so I wont feel alone in it all. He's been very supportive and we have discussed lots of options and went through scenario after scenario in our minds. Aborting is the decision we have concluded. It's not an easy one, and its been pretty hard on both of us but it's whats best right now.

The hardest part is the indecision. Like obsessing on if you'll regret it. If you are sure you are doing the right thing - I always was - it's nothing more than cramps and mess and pads   just stock up on advil & have some dark sweats on hand. And some movies. And a big blanket.

Quoting ...___...:" The hardest part is the indecision. Like obsessing on if you'll regret it. If you are sure you are doing ... [snip!] ... cramps and mess and pads   just stock up on advil & have some dark sweats on hand. And some movies. And a big blanket."

No matter what way you go she is right make sure you have everything you will need for some quiet days at home on the couch. I was one day past being able to take the pill I was in a lot more pain than if I had been able to go that route.

I personally never had an abortion. My good friend had two abortions, she was 7 weeks with her first. She took the pill, it worked. The second abortion was in January of this year. I had her stay at my house and I took care of her, she decided to do the pill this time around. She was 5 weeks, the pill didn't work. She took the pill for a second time and it worked.

When my baby had no heartbeat I was give that pill to help pass it I stayed home four days went back to work and started my miscarriage there ended up at emerg the next day I had to have a d&c because I didn't pass everything I can't make your decision for you I just want to let you know what happened to me

CLINICAL!!! I've had both types done and the pill was a nightmare. It's illegal in my state and now I now why.

I just had the clinical done, and I can say it's the best option because you have the option of being sedated and you won't rem.that much.It's a method where it's doone and done with.