Grr *vent* long

I am so sick of Andre it is unreal..We have been together for almost 5 years now.And we are getting married in less than 2 months.
Last weekend.He left me at home alone yet again while he went out to see his friends.That didn't bother me too much seeing as I was exhausted and was going to sleep anyways.What pissed me off was that he told me he was gone to Yve's house.And I found out the next day that he actually went to Yvon's house.Usually I wouldn't care to much about that neither except for the fact that the girl he cheated on me with last may was there.(yvon's gfs best friend).And it wasnt even him who told me it was ashley when she asked me why i wasnt there the night before and why everyone kept saying andre wasnt supposed to be there neither.well he freaked out on me for even caring that she was there.I put the whole cheating thing behind me but it would have been nice to have been told the truth.
Anyhow then this weekend rolls around.After being a complete dickhead all day while shopping and making me cry in public.He decided that he was going to go to Yve's house.Fine by me he said he'd be gone an hour max.Well that was at 10:30. He came back in the house a few times before actually leaving.*looking* for something on the table.Well he left and at 1 i texted him asking when he was coming home.i was exhausted and we were suopposed to have a bit of alone time seeing as sunday was my birthday.he ignored me so i went to bed.I got a call sunday morning asking me if my husband made it home and i said ya.i asked him about it i guess they went to a party out at the lake.i asked him how he got home he said he hopped in with one of yves friends cuz yves was staying there.ya another complete bullshit.when i went to his parents his sisters friends had mentioned that andre drovehis sisterhome on my fourwheeler.Mind you he was so drunk he didn't even know what time it was when he came home.I called him and asked him about it and he hung up on me.He completely lied right to my face again.It turns out that when he was looking for something it was actually grabbing the fourwheeler key and leaving the truck keys in its place so i wouldnt notice.He only went to buy me a cake for my birthday so that i wouldnt be so mad about the driving thing.Because as of saturday night he wanted me to bake my own birthday cake.He didn't even wish me a happy birthday yesterday.He actually drove by his moms house yesterday while we were sitting outside and didnt even wave to me,his parents or the kids.And when he finally did come over he was so grumpy I seriously wish he hadnt even bothered with coming over.

Saturday while we were shooping is another huge story in itself..lol.I seriously wish I could have just punched him in the face he was so rude.

Wow...I would seriously get some counseling before you get married. Imagine being this pissed for a lifetime!

Laia~ I agree..........
I would give more of my opinion...but um.....all I know is this one story out of your relationship....but from what you have here...girl....you need to rethink a few things!!!!! I hope you get things straight for you and those babies!!!!

You really need to have a talk with him before you two get married.

and you really want to marry that? I would never even consider marrying someone who treated me that way.

He usually isn't this bad.It has just been this past little while.I mean he does party quite often but I have gotten used to that over the years and he hasALMOST always offeredto get a babysitter but i was always either pregnant or breastfeedingand didn't really want to go.And he usually waits until I'm almost asleep or ready for bed just watching tv to leave if i dont want to go.
I'm seriously not even sure if its all him or even some of my left over hormones and lack of sleep making me angry.I know the whole four wheeler situation was actually me being pissed because it's not the first time he has done it and lied to me about it(hence why he was sneaking around to get the key).He will be losing his bike key until he proves he can be trusted.
But yes we will definitely be having a long talk about all of thsi tonight after he is home from work and the kids are in bed.We were at his parents last night until pretty late and even though his parents were pretty upset with him as well I didn't really want to get into with him there.

You have 3 children. What the hell is he doing? Put your foot in his a$$! He needs to cut the partying out and help you. I would tell him that I am seriously reconsidering this upcoming marriage. Give him some shock therapy. I'm sorry but there is no 'nice' way to say this to you. You deserve better hun.

Quoting Cassie's Taxi:“ You have 3 children. What the hell is he doing? Put your foot in his a$$! He needs to cut the partying ... [snip!] ... marriage. Give him some shock therapy. I'm sorry but there is no 'nice' way to say this to you. You deserve better hun.”

Believe me over the years he has cut back on his partying drastically.He has been starting to stay home a lot more often lately.Or instead of going out to his friends houses he will have a few drinks at home after the kids are in bed.
I have told him that i was reconsidering marrying him.A few months ago and that made him smarten up quite a bit.He was doing so well until the long weekend 2 weekends ago when he started going back to his old ways.
We had a huge discussion last night about all of this and he claims he has been a prick lately because he has been stressing out about work/paying for the wedding.Well I have been pretty stressed lately taking care of the 3 kids,keeping the house spotless for him all while planning our wedding and our sons birthday party yet i still try my best to keep a smile on my face and not take it out on him.He has been trying really hard to make it up to me the past few days.He must know how badly he pissed me off/hurt me.

Quoting MamaLeah85:“ Believe me over the years he has cut back on his partying drastically.He has been starting to stay ... [snip!] ... on him.He has been trying really hard to make it up to me the past few days.He must know how badly he pissed me off/hurt me.”

Good for you! Don't back down, stay on top of this. It sounds like he is moving in the right direction! Good luck and congrats!