Quoting Rayne Simpson:" i did say that certain things to make a difference, but in the end we all end up going through the same ... [snip!] ... if you think i'm wrong, then good for you, but i would like it if you didn't be-little me. because that's how i feel right now."
Well you need to stop feeling "belittled" because no ones insulting you. What you're getting is good advice, which you need, from people who are further along this path then you are, and know a heck of a lot more from experience. So how about you knock off the "I feel belittled" bit, and take the advice for that it is. A reminder that people are telling you it's going to be hard because it *IS* going to be hard. Stop trying to defend your position by saying these things don't matter. They do.
This is from someone who has seen the difference income and education can make. The difference age can make because of how set up in your life you are. No one is saying you CAN'T be a good parent, but we're saying that burying your head in the sand and pretending like getting pregnant as a teen is such a wonderful thing is just ignorant.
I haven't been mean. I've tried to give you a reality check, because you NEED that to make the best of your situation. Again, I hope everything turns out very well for you, but pretending as if it just will all magically work out and this was the best thing ever just seems naive. A better outlook might be "this is going to be hard as smurf, and if I'd waited a few years until i was better established and a bit more mature it would be easier. However, I'm going to work my ass off and give my kids the best life I can." THAT is realistic. THAT shows maturity and a good grasp of the situation and of the world.