re: My teenager

I wouldn't allow it...you don't want her to go and start having sex.

No wait...

Quoting Devil's Advocate:" How far apart are her children? When did she have her first?"

OP's daughter has a 2yr old and 2wk old twins.

Quoting MyPurrrtyBabies:" Why would it be horrible for him to move in with h

He doesn't think a 17 yr old and a 21 yr old should live together if they don't have kids together or are married.

A 17yr old with that many kids? doesn't sound too good to me.

Quoting Cheryl J.:" He doesn't think a 17 yr old and a 21 yr old should live together if they don't have kids together or are married."

Oh okay.

I say let him, if hes gonna help her. With a toddler and 2 infants, shes going to need all the help she can get. If hes gonna be a slob and rent oht the couch and do nothing but party or whatever, dont let him. Id be more worried on the well being of the 3 children, then if they r having sex. Having 3 kids before she turned 18, she should have the common sence to get on bc, use protection or just not do it. Does the bf have a job? Is he into drugs or alcohol? Does he have a criminal record? How long have they been "dating"? What are his intentions of moving in with her? Ask yourself these questions. If you have any bad feelings about it, dont do it. You could always "evict" him if it doesnt work out...

i say allow it if he's going to help her, especially with kids that aren't his! There isn't much more that can go wrong (i hope she learned the first 2 times anyways!) and if she's renting i don't see why you should have much say anyways, she's paying to live there with HER money, she's not being supported by you, i think she should be able to do what she wants!

Sounds like a bad idea. Where's the children's father/s? She should just worry about her kids for now. How long has she been with this guy? She shouldn't just move in any random guy to live with her children.

Quoting BetterOffSingle!:" i say allow it if he's going to help her, especially with kids that aren't his!"

agreed.

Quoting Sylas' Mommy:" I say let him, if hes gonna help her. With a toddler and 2 infants, shes going to need all the help she ... [snip!] ... these questions. If you have any bad feelings about it, dont do it. You could always "evict" him if it doesnt work out..."

couldn't have said it better

She has assumed an adult role and responsibility. She ought to be treated as one imo.

Your 17 year old has 3 kids and your biggest concern is if her bf should be allowed I live with her in a house she rents???

Sounds back ass-wards to me.

Let her do what she wants, but maybe it's time you and her had the sex talk so she knows where those babies are coming from.

Quoting Sylas' Mommy:" I say let him, if hes gonna help her. With a toddler and 2 infants, shes going to need all the help she ... [snip!] ... these questions. If you have any bad feelings about it, dont do it. You could always "evict" him if it doesnt work out..."

He works, he doesn't have a record, he doesnt do drug or anything like that. they would have been together a year but they took a break and dated other people.
He BD is long gone he moved outa state and said he wanted nothing to do with his kids

Quoting SpaceCowgirl:" Let her do what she wants, but maybe it's time you and her had the sex talk so she knows where those babies are coming

I don't need to have the "sex talk" with her, she is going on BC.