re: future stepmom?

Quoting Katie Lomax:" i can see your point but i do not want my son to think of another woman as a mom. of course i want ... [snip!] ... so i was asking for advice on how to deal with it not to be told im being petty for wanting to be the only mom for my son. "

best advice dontbe petty towards his fiance be cordial it makes dealing with the step mother figure in your childs life alot easier

Quoting Katie Lomax:" well first of all him proposing on the same day another woman gave birth to his child is just a rude ... [snip!] ... its not important (when its fact breastfeeding is the best thing for a baby) and there is much more. he is an smurf trust me"

It's only rude because you are still not over him, clearly you haven't let go. It only taints his birth because you let it. He didn't do anything wrong, it's not like when you guys broke up there was some rule book that said you can't propose to anyone on the day of this birth or other important dates in his life.

How many months were you and your ex broken up before he proposed to this new chick? PM me if you wanna talk!

Maybe she was feeling insecure that he would go back with you after baby was born but anyway that is a little bit rude I'm not sure about a stepmom thing but I would ask that she meet you and your baby a few times to see how she is with your baby but your baby should not call that women mom and your ex should not encourage it either

Quoting Mrs cree:" Maybe she was feeling insecure that he would go back with you after baby was born but anyway that is ... [snip!] ... times to see how she is with your baby but your baby should not call that women mom and your ex should not encourage it either"

if he marries the girl why not if she treats the child right

If he marries the girl but there should be short introductions to the women especially when your child is not capable of speaking or communicating to protect the child how long has he known this women they couldn't have been together long if she just had his child eight weeks ago

Quoting Mrs cree:" If he marries the girl but there should be short introductions to the women especially when your child ... [snip!] ... the child how long has he known this women they couldn't have been together long if she just had his child eight weeks ago"

he left her in the begining of the pregnancy so it could have been a little bit more then what everyone is thinking

Well it's defiantly less than a year

Quoting Mrs cree:" Well it's defiantly less than a year"

and?

How well do you really trust someone around your kids you have known less than a year with your kids that can't communicate? I certainly wouldn't look at all the horrific things that happen from parents boyfriends girlfriends fiancées whatever

Quoting Mami Ana:" Personally I would want my children to love the person their father remarries and vice versa. It sounds ... [snip!] ... take care of them as her own and my children to see her a another parent, person of authority to love and respect and trust."

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it's hard hearing my kdis talk about my ex's fiance... but I'm HAPPY for THEM that they get along with her, and that she loves them. It's in their best interest.. and it's about them.. not me

this coming from someone who is on the other side of the spectrum.. as in im engaged and will have a future step-son. his BM hates me but i adore their little boy whos now 7 i been around since he was 3. His mom tried so hard to make him not like me... but it didnt work and it eats her up that her son loves me... she wont let him go on any trips with and always says smart ass remarks like "hes always gonna be your favorite, and ill always be your favorite BM right"? i mean who says that.. reallly....!? so my advice, i know your son is young but that just means he'll grow up haveing one other person love him.... no one will ever take your place and hopfully she will never try... we know our boundries(most of us) ... just respect us and you get respect back.. i wish SO's BM and i could get along, she just wont no matter how hard we all try even the son asks why his mommy dont like me.. (and i think its sad that he even knows that.. IMO)

Quoting Mami Ana:" It's only rude because you are still not over him, clearly you haven't let go. It only taints his birth ... [snip!] ... there was some rule book that said you can't propose to anyone on the day of this birth or other important dates in his life."

Trust me i AM over him. I wouldnt get back together with him if someone paid me. i do not like him in any way. i do not like him in a relationship sense and i really dont like him in any other senses right now due to how he acts. so it has NOTHING to do with that. and besides everyone needs to stop assuming that he broke up with me because it was the other way around

Quoting Mrs cree:" Well it's defiantly less than a year"

yes, they have been together since sometime in december

<blockquote><b>Quoting Katie Lomax:</b>" Trust me i AM over him. I wouldnt get back together with him if someone paid me. i do not like him in ... [snip!] ... to do with that. and besides everyone needs to stop assuming that he broke up with me because it was the other way around"</blockquote>




I didn't say he left you. Just saying, the fact that you think it's rude makes me believe you are either really bitter about it or not over him. It's his life he can do as he pleases, including proposing to someone else on the day his son is born.

Did he come see his son?