Would you be mad.

I let BD get our son tonight, normally I would not allow for him to keep him at his moms because his mom is always trying to talk him into taking our son. But considering the circumstances and how much pain i'm in I let him get him.. Throughout the day I shot him a text a little after he picked him up to see if he was doing okay since DS hasn't seen BD in 2 months. He said yeah, and asked if he could take him to our towns homecoming game. I said yeah, but to bundle up cause he had a little bit of a cold. I didn't text him at all the rest of the night until bedtime, I asked if DS went to bed alright for him. He ignores me. A little while after that I found out my grandmother got into a bad accident and my mom is leaving to another state to help take care of her and since i'm on bedrest I wanted to see if he'd be alright with me and DS moving in with my neighboor. He ignores me. Finally I text him and say I really wish you'd text me back and let me know if Hunter made it to bed alright. He texts back blowin up on me with an attitude. I'm likee really? & He wonders why I am so iffy about him getting DS.

I would.. how hard is it to send a text?!

He probably thinks you don't trust him. I'm sure if there were any real issues he would have let you know

Quoting MiniMansMamma:" I would.. how hard is it to send a text?!"

My point exactly,

<blockquote><b>Quoting MiniMansMamma:</b>" I would.. how hard is it to send a text?!"</blockquote>

Maybe he was looking after his son and didn't have his phone glued to his hand?

Why do you need to ask if it's okay for you to move to your neighbors? Is he the father of the child you are pregnant with?

Now I'd want a text to make sure they were okay, but its not like he was outright ignoring you the whole time. He did answer you earlier. But you also have to trust his parenting too. If you cant, then you shouldnt of let him go in the first place. To get texts of "Did you put a jacket on him?/Did he eat okay?/Did he go to bed, what foods did you give him?/Is he homesick?" Kind of stuff time after time kind of undermines his parenting. To me, anyways. Major things, yes, text. But if you dont think that he is even capable of putting a jacket on a child then he has no business taking his kid in the first place. If he IS capable, well then.... back off. Just let him be.

Quoting FroggysMommy:" Why do you need to ask if it's okay for you to move to your neighbors? Is he the father of the child ... [snip!] ... a child then he has no business taking his kid in the first place. If he IS capable, well then.... back off. Just let him be."

This!! You come off a bit overbearing. I would be a bit irritated if I was in his shoes.

No, you were probably just annoying him and to be honest if I was in his shoes, you would annoy me and id ignore you too.

Im sure if any serious problems arose you'd know.

Quoting FroggysMommy:" Why do you need to ask if it's okay for you to move to your neighbors? Is he the father of the child ... [snip!] ... a child then he has no business taking his kid in the first place. If he IS capable, well then.... back off. Just let him be."

He asked me if it was okay if he took him to the game. He's been sick and in Georgia it goes from 80-60 in a few hours. So I said I don't care just bring a jacket. I don't think it was that huge of a deal.

I was going through the same thing with my son's dad. But I have made it clear to him that I do not care at all how much I am annoying him. I am supporting our son without his help so since he is still seeing our son, I am going to check on my son as much as I'd like and he can get over it if he doesn't like it. I won't put up with much from him cause if things don't go his way he wants to argue. But I refuse to deal with his attitude. I don't have too, & I'm not going to. The only thing that concerns me is that he does what he needs to for our son & takes care of him responsibly.

Quoting Dylan'smommy011:" I was going through the same thing with my son's dad. But I have made it clear to him that I do not care ... [snip!] ... going to. The only thing that concerns me is that he does what he needs to for our son & takes care of him responsibly. "

That's my thing, my BD was sleeping with my bridesmaid instead of watching our son while I was at work and would have all his friends over and be drinking before I got home from work. The only reason I am allowing him to keep him is because he now lives with his mother, so it's a stable environment where I know those things won't be happening, and the fact that he is working really hard to clean up his act. Regardless of those things, I still worry and obviously was going to see if he was okay since our LO hadn't seen BD in a little over 2 months so I was unsure of how he was going to handle it. I feel like I should be able to text at least once and see how his day went and bedtime. I'm so glad someone agrees with me.