PT Frustration :(

So DD just turned 3 last weekend. We have been working on pottying for a couple months now and she wears pull ups at daycare and they tell me she uses the potty (tee tee) at least twice while there during the day. She used to go when she got home too and on the weekends....now if I ask her to go when she's home she will say "no I don't want to go pee!" and she will throw a fit and start crying when I just ask her to try for me and I sit her on the potty. I don't get it. I mean she wasn't fully trained before by any means, but there was better progress than this. Idk what to do. I don't want to fuss at her or pressure her too much, but I'm frustrated. Last night I sat her on the potty (she cried and didn't want to so I took her off) and then she went into her room and peed on the floor. I told her it was yucky to pee on the floor and that she could've peed on the potty and I had her help me clean it up. Ugh what do i do??? It's not like she's super behind because the kids in her class aren't fully potty trained and some are more behind than her but I'm scared for her to get to age 4 and still not be fully trained. Ugh help   I want her to make progress but I don't want to make it a negative thing for her either. I've already tried bribing with treats and nothing works lol

LOL. I was in the same boat!
It might be a control thing. I don't know if that makes any sense. I remenber when my DS was a year old and was getting picky with food, his pedi said something along the lines of you can't force a child to eat, talk, and potty train. Something about they're trying to exert control. I don't know how true it is.. but it kinda makes sense.
Just keep your cool and don't show too much emotions. Easier said than done. TRUST me. But they do play games. My DD (she's almost 2) always tells me "Mommy, me go potty now" and I put her on it and she just laughs at me. She won't go. Or she'll just want to sit there forever and keeps telling me "Almost done, mama". No, you're not peeing, you're playing games. She knows what a potty is and she knows what to do with it..when I put her on the potty, she'll say she's done and then she pees on the bathroom floor. Trust me, I understand the frusteration.
Your LO might just being trying to get a rise out of it.

And I understand what you mean about worrying that she'll turn 4 and not be PT. I seriously felt like that with my 3 1/2 year old. He's fully PT now, but he didn't start even potty training process about 2-3 months ago. So he was older than your LO. I seriously thought he wasn't gonna get a hang of it until he was, like, 5. He would cry if I put him on the potty, pees on the ground, etc.
But with him, just like walking and talking, he's just a slower kid. I think he has self-confidence issues. Meaning, he doubts himself but once he does it the first time, it's done. So within a week and a half of him initially first peeing in the potty, he was fully potty trained (just like walking and talking with him). I never, ever express any negative emotions when they do have accidents because I feel that will set them back. It kind of hurts me when my DS has an accident (my fault, not his..I should've taken him to the bathroom), he'll look at me and say "I sowwy, mama". Don't be sorry! It happens.

Just remenber, she won't be in pullups/diapers forever. She will get out of it one way or another.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Diana plus 2:</b>" LOL. I was in the same boat! It might be a control thing. I don't know if that makes any sense. I remenber ... [snip!] ... be sorry! It happens. Just remenber, she won't be in pullups/diapers forever. She will get out of it one way or another."</blockquote>




Yea I know :/ I guess I'm being a little irrational. She is very into being the one in control. She is super aggressive and assertive. When I fuss at her for anything she fusses at me back and tries to over talk me (GRRRRRR). Definitely a handful. But I guess I will just let her do it on her own time so she can feel in control as long as she just tries sometimes. I know eventually she will get it.

And the only reason I told her peeing on the floor was gross was because I want her to realize that it would have been better to go potty while we were already in there. And I get her to help me clean it up so she doesn't want to do it again. I know she kind of did it to spite me lol. But if she has a regular accident then I don't fuss at her. I've heard of parents fussing at their kids for accidentally peeing in their pull up or diaper and that makes me sad  

Quoting O ♥ G:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Diana plus 2:</b>" LOL. I was in the same boat! It might be ... [snip!] ... at her. I've heard of parents fussing at their kids for accidentally peeing in their pull up or diaper and that makes me sad  "

Oh I understand! I didn't think of asking her to help me clean. I should do that next time. But I don't know if she'll connect the dots, though. I should really listen to my advice to you, but it's hard not to be fusterated. My LO is just really, really stubborn and just like yours, she WILL argue with me.

And yeah. Last December, I was watching these two little boys while their mom did Xmas shopping (these kids were terrible!!), and when the 2 year old (the kid is about 2 months older than my DS) had an accident, the mom's boyfriend (NOT their dad) started smacking him around and both were screaming at him. I was like..WTF? It's called an accident for a reason... and they have tiny bladders and they forget to use the bathroom when they're having fun.

The one thing with my son, though, is I gave him stickers when he first peed in the potty. For some reason, that really, really motivated him. And I tried cars, stickers, candy (yeah, I'm terrible), toys, and nothing worked in the past.