If everytime you talk to someone and they ask how baby is they say, "how's my baby" ..

But it's your child .. is that dumb to get mad about? lol I'm curious because it's my second cousin & idk why but its kind of grating my nerves everytime she says it.

I think it is silly. She obviously knows it isn't really her kid. My mom asks how her babies are all the time when asking about the kids. Doesn't bother me at all.

I would say it depends on the person haha. If it was someone I really liked and spent time around my baby I wouldn't care, if it was someone who rarely saw the baby or I didn't care for yes it would annoy me. Not enough to say anything though probably.

I guess I never really thought about it.

There's a girl in another department at work who always asks "How's my baby doing".

I got over people asking about my pregnancy all the time, they are just genuinely interested and mean no harm.

I understand why you'd get annoyed. I can't explain why they say that, but a lot of people said it to me and still do today. You could just kindly ask them to not call it their baby?

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It's silly to get mad about, plenty of people on DH's side of the family refer to our newest as their baby, and it doesn't bother me, maybe because they didn't get to see my first two until just this year. Hell even a chick DH used to work with calls my DD her baby, IMO it just shows they care.

Maybe because it's my first and I really wanna own this pregnancy but it just feels like everyone is telling me what to do. I've been told I'm going to wrap her in a bubble/be too overprotective/had people say they should take her when she's 1 for nights out, babysit her by themselves, and that it's nuts if I don't want people visiting right away.

That's why it annoys me I think!!

No, it doesn't bother me. My friend's mother always calls DS her's, she also says she's going to steal him from me, lol. She loves him, I don't see any harm in it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting eur009:</b>" Maybe because it's my first and I really wanna own this pregnancy but it just feels like everyone is ... [snip!] ... babysit her by themselves, and that it's nuts if I don't want people visiting right away. That's why it annoys me I think!!"</blockquote>



You're going to have to tell them to back off because I promise it won't stop, and ignore most of it.

Quoting ღ.ღ.ღ:" <blockquote><b>Quoting eur009:</b>" Maybe because it's my first and I really wanna ... [snip!] ... You're going to have to tell them to back off because I promise it won't stop, and ignore most of it."

Damn.. lol Like I'm the parent. It seems kind of self-righteous for people to think they have the right to tell me how to do it. I have tried to be passive aggressive but it doesn't work, most people don't stop unless I'm harsh and even then some of them fight with me over it or tell me I'm being controlling or a bitch.

Quoting eur009:" Maybe because it's my first and I really wanna own this pregnancy but it just feels like everyone is ... [snip!] ... babysit her by themselves, and that it's nuts if I don't want people visiting right away. That's why it annoys me I think!!"

Well that's different. I always went along with any exaggerated and sarcastic remarks. My FIL used to say LO was going to be a spoiled if I continued to let DS get away with things when he wasn't even 1. I'd just tell him that I hope he grows up to be a little smart mouthed smurf head, the kid that every hates to be around. ;)

It wasn't until LO was older and FIL thought he had a major role in how LO was being cared for, that's when I'd actually tell him that he needs to learn his place and worry about his own children and not mine. You're going to have to stand your ground.

<blockquote><b>Quoting eur009:</b>" Damn.. lol Like I'm the parent. It seems kind of self-righteous for people to think they have the right ... [snip!] ... don't stop unless I'm harsh and even then some of them fight with me over it or tell me I'm being controlling or a bitch."</blockquote>


People parent one way and some expect you to do the same. My mom asked when I was going to start DD on cereal(she was a month old) and when I told her after 6 months she said she started me at a month and I turned out fine. Then DD was 'constipated' according to DH's grandma and she told me to give her water( she was 3 weeks) and I told her no. With this being my 3rd I've learned to ignore the advice or tell them that I do things a certain way, but thanks for their input.