Quoting eur009:" Maybe because it's my first and I really wanna own this pregnancy but it just feels like everyone is ... [snip!] ... babysit her by themselves, and that it's nuts if I don't want people visiting right away. That's why it annoys me I think!!"
Well that's different. I always went along with any exaggerated and sarcastic remarks. My FIL used to say LO was going to be a spoiled if I continued to let DS get away with things when he wasn't even 1. I'd just tell him that I hope he grows up to be a little smart mouthed smurf head, the kid that every hates to be around. ;)
It wasn't until LO was older and FIL thought he had a major role in how LO was being cared for, that's when I'd actually tell him that he needs to learn his place and worry about his own children and not mine. You're going to have to stand your ground.