re: Going Out As A Parent

Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:" Re-read the post. "

i read it just fine

as long as you can pay the bills and food with your own money have fun and go out as much as you like

<blockquote><b>Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:</b>" I've seen it. A child gets pawned off to mom or dad (grandpa/grandma), and the mom goes out and gets ... [snip!] ... away. Once a week, maybe, but not every night. This is what I am referring to. Your child looks up to you in all you do. "</blockquote>




Idk what kind of relationship u have with your parents or whoever but when I go out to drink my mom/grandma know that's what I'm doing. Plus there's always two adults there and they wouldn't call me simply because my kids wanted them to. They let me have "me" time.

Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:</b>" I've seen it. A child gets pawned ... [snip!] ... there's always two adults there and they wouldn't call me simply because my kids wanted them to. They let me have "me" time."

this. !

Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:</b>" I've seen it. A child gets pawned ... [snip!] ... there's always two adults there and they wouldn't call me simply because my kids wanted them to. They let me have "me" time."

um, yep!

 

<blockquote><b>Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:</b>" Good for you. I just see it differently. I am very cautious and if for some reason my LOs needed me while I was out, I better be able to come to their rescue. "</blockquote>


I'm sad that you don't have the kind of relationship with your family that I do, where you can trust them to "rescue" your kid just as well as you would.

Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:" Yes!! I am very annoyed by this behavior. It is also the grandparents fault for saying yes to watching ... [snip!] ... sacrificed time and their life for you, it is only right you do the same for your child. Otherwise, what are you teaching them?"

I think you're being ridiculous.

Parents that go out are not necessarily 'pawning their kids off".

I dropped my kids off and went home.
and enjoyed the QUIET.

I sincerely hope you reexamine your thought process behind attempting to call cps for babysitting your grandkids

Quoting º×ß¡±©µ×º:" i read it just fine "

Then you can answer your last post. I don't think you understood what I wrote.

Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:</b>" I've seen it. A child gets pawned ... [snip!] ... there's always two adults there and they wouldn't call me simply because my kids wanted them to. They let me have "me" time."

That's great. "Me" time is important, but so are the kids. I don't see what the relationship with my parents has to do with it.

Quoting 12.21.07¤04.18.13:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:</b>" Good for you. I just see it differently. ... [snip!] ... the kind of relationship with your family that I do, where you can trust them to "rescue" your kid just as well as you would."

Some people are not lucky like you are. It is nice that you can fall on someone to rescue your child.
My mom was able to do that with my brother and I with our grandparents. But in all honestly, my relationship with my mom is not what a daughter/mother should be.
When I needed her the most, she was not there. Grandma was. Grandma and I get along well and most of my morals and values are brought on from her.
So you see, while I understand these posts, I do not support going out and getting drunk nor do I support a parent depending on their mom or dad to save them for a drink or two.
I know what it is like to want a break, to stress out, to have no time alone, to not be able to do what you like. But in all honestly, you brought that child into the world, don't neglect them. Once a week, I think it is nice to have a date or outting, but partying is certainly foolish IMO.

Quoting .Colleen.:" I think you're being ridiculous. Parents that go out are not necessarily 'pawning their kids off". ... [snip!] ... the QUIET. I sincerely hope you reexamine your thought process behind attempting to call cps for babysitting your grandkids"

Then, I was not referring to you.

I will not call CPS for simple babysitting, but I will report if he/she neglect or abandoned them to my care repeatingly. I don't think you understood me.

<blockquote><b>Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:</b>" Some people are not lucky like you are. It is nice that you can fall on someone to rescue your child. ... [snip!] ... don't neglect them. Once a week, I think it is nice to have a date or outting, but partying is certainly foolish IMO. "</blockquote>


Sucks your mom sucks. I have an awesome one who adores my daughter and loves her weekends with her.

I don't recall my mother telling me I had to get YOUR permission before she could watch my daughter. I don't approve of mothers being stuck up, judgmental bitches, but you dont see me threatening you with CPS or calling you a smurffy mom.

Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:" Some people are not lucky like you are. It is nice that you can fall on someone to rescue your child. ... [snip!] ... don't neglect them. Once a week, I think it is nice to have a date or outting, but partying is certainly foolish IMO. "

that's absolutely retarded. i LIVED with my grandparents with my mom when i was little until i was about two. my grandma kept me every single day while my mom was at school, all day every day. both my younger brothers and i stayed with my grandparents VERY often. (at least once a week we'd stay the night, usually the WEEKEND! GASP!)
i knew my mother was my mother and she is one of my best friends. she's been one of my best friends my entire life. my parents would also go on VACATIONS without us! holy smurf what terrible parents! i wonder why my grandparents didn't call CPS and tell them that my parents were ALONE, WITHOUT THEIR KIDS, AND DRINKING! cause um, yeah, my parents liked to drink. still do if they get a chance. they didn't get sloppy drunk around us, because they were responsible and went out to have adult time. i honestly cannot believe you said you'd call CPS on your kids for leaving your grandkids with you while they go out. you know they wouldn't do a smurfing thing, right? LOL. you're ridiculous.

And I sure as smurf am not neglecting my daughter   I am with her all afternoon when she's home from school, all night every weekday, and all day Saturday and all day or most of the afternoon Sunday.

i'm surprised she remembers my name with how little I see her  

Quoting K.MarieAnnette:" that's absolutely retarded. i LIVED with my grandparents with my mom when i was little until i was ... [snip!] ... leaving your grandkids with you while they go out. you know they wouldn't do a smurfing thing, right? LOL. you're ridiculous."

Very well said.

We're certainly not abandoning our kids. It's called taking a break for a few hours. Excuse me for being human. My kid is well cared for by her grandparents when they watch her. They are gonna watch her overnight on the 2nd of November so we can go to Woods of Terror. Irresponsible would be taking DD to the bar and to woods of terror with us.