Quoting BuggyBoo:" I am so tired of seeing women who have kids and seem to spend most of their time at the bar, with their ... [snip!] ... every single weekend and why getting drunk being the only option? Anyone else get annoyed by this and see more of it anymore?"
Yes!! I am very annoyed by this behavior. It is also the grandparents fault for saying yes to watching the LO(s).
My husband and I have yet to do this to our family. We don't have nearby parents to do this to, nor would we consider it.
We have went out once our children went to bed and had a sitter watch them for an hour or two, but nothing more. That barely happened. After nearly 4 years of no dates together or time alone with one another we finally decided we needed to start in order to keep our relationship strong. We don't go out and get wasted or drunk, normally it is just dinner and a pool game or two (something we both did before the kids). We called in between to check on the LOs and make sure they were not fussy or needy.
When our children have kids of their own, I will not allow them to take advantage of me. If they go out and get drunk while I watch them, I will not watch them anymore and they will still need to pick them up when they are sick and hungover or etc. I will even go as far as reporting their behavior if they continue to use me as a source to watch their children and party. Once you have a child, you are in it. You are on call whether you like it or not, whether you have a parent watch them or not. Because if grandma or grandpa get sick or have to run somewhere, you better be prepared to pick up your child. It's not a back up source, if you were not ready to have a child, you should have thought about that before you had sex.
I know, I'm harsh. However I have had it with this new society thinking it is okay to burden their parents while they party. Your parents put their time in and sacrificed time and their life for you, it is only right you do the same for your child. Otherwise, what are you teaching them?