re: Going Out As A Parent

Quoting The Doctor:" Okay. So, then, I again re-iterate my question. How do you know when these parents are out at the ... [snip!] ... in the face YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THESE WOMEN ACTUALLY DO, nor how they think, or what they think about. I'm sorry, you don't."

I don't know everyone who goes out all the time but I do know some and those are not hypothetical people, they are people I know and who talk about what they do and post about it quite frequently so you easily know what they are doing. The one I spoke about specifically to make my point of the time of person I am talking about I happen to know well, as well as my other friends who know her, so she is not hypothetical at all.

Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:" You said "Well, no smurf. Obviously she will not. She is not abusing them." As a reply that she should lose her kids. When, no, she really shouldn't lose her kids. "

The "no smurf" was in response to saying she was neglectful, which was the point I was trying to make from the very beginning. Her kids aren't going to be taken away because her kids have what they need and are clothed and she provides food and care for them...she just neglects them emotionally which is't a crime, but isn't the best thing to do either in my opinion. I guess some people are all for it here, but I'm not. Her husband is a doctor, he gives her the money to provide for the kids, and her parents do "daycare" or "nightcare" for them so to each their own, I guess.

Quoting BuggyBoo:" I don't know everyone who goes out all the time but I do know some and those are not hypothetical people, ... [snip!] ... person I am talking about I happen to know well, as well as my other friends who know her, so she is not hypothetical at all."

Haha. Okay.

Whatever makes you feel better about yourself, keep ranting and raving.

I know you've never been in the situation where you've been a single parent, so keep on judgin' and ASSumin'.

Quoting The Doctor:" Haha. Okay. Whatever makes you feel better about yourself, keep ranting and raving. I know you've never been in the situation where you've been a single parent, so keep on judgin' and ASSumin'."

Op doesn't do logic, don't waste your time  

Quoting .Colleen.:" Op doesn't do logic, don't waste your time  "

Bwahaha. That's why I said just keep goin'.

Good times, good times.

Quoting The Doctor:" Bwahaha. That's why I said just keep goin'. Good times, good times."

I don't have the attention span  

Quoting BuggyBoo:" I have a child in preschool. Preschool is to ready them for Kindergarten and teach them how to socialize ... [snip!] ... about people who specifically neglect their children and would rather be doing anything other than raising them themselves."

Meh, we've thought about putting LO in daycare 2-3 days a week so I could have time for myself. I'm a SAHM and I wouldn't plan on getting a job, I just want a break. Considering DH's job doesn't allow for me to have breaks from LO and I don't have a support system here I wouldn't find it odd. Of course everyone I'm sure has their opinion about that, but whatev.

Everyone needs adult time, but every weekend is too much adult time IMO.

Quoting BuggyBoo:" The "no smurf" was in response to saying she was neglectful, which was the point I was trying to make ... [snip!] ... her the money to provide for the kids, and her parents do "daycare" or "nightcare" for them so to each their own, I guess."

ha, i was being sarcastic, but whatever. lol.

I'm too nervous to let anyone but my parents or inlaws watch my son....but even when they offer...I don't really do it...there have been 3 times I have left him and the longest was 3 hours. I miss him too much...I don't really want breaks... not a whole day anyway

Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" I'm too nervous to let anyone but my parents or inlaws watch my son....but even when they offer...I don't ... [snip!] ... 3 times I have left him and the longest was 3 hours. I miss him too much...I don't really want breaks... not a whole day anyway"

that's totally fine, too. if you don't feel like you need/want a break, then more power to you. personally, i NEED to have a break. if i don't, my anxiety gets really bad and i kind of shut down. i need to have a little time to just focus on breathing sometimes and SO and i need time together to remember that we love eachother and not only be parents for a bit. i am personally one of those people where if i can't take care of myself every once in a while, i won't be able to take care of others, including my baby.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ★Momma Dee★:</b>" Everyone needs adult time, but every weekend is too much adult time IMO."</blockquote>



And who are you to declare that  

And why the objection to bars anyway? Would you still have sand in your twat if they were going out every night to pottery class?

<blockquote><b>Quoting K.MarieAnnette:</b>" that's totally fine, too. if you don't feel like you need/want a break, then more power to you. personally, ... [snip!] ... people where if i can't take care of myself every once in a while, i won't be able to take care of others, including my baby."</blockquote>




Yeah you do need to have a healthy mind  ...I get the opposite comments..some of my family tells me my son and I need time apart everytime we visit...I just think it depends on the person..what works for one person wont always for another...I do kinda get jealous of some moms that go out a lot...because I miss the old times with my some of my old friends ...BUT I get jittery and anxious without my son..I can't enjoy it if I'm away too long

One of SO's friends is like this. She has her son in full time daycare from 6:30am - 6:30pm her dad takes him Tuesday and Wednesday nights so she can go to the gym/personal trainer, and then her dad also takes him from friday night - monday morning so she can spend the weekend doing whatever she wants. This happens every week and has been since her son was born.