Quoting luvmomyhood:" So how r u mamas dealing with these misbehaving or whatever's. Mine got 3 time outs today, Which is odd ... [snip!] ... time outs for same crap AND she has fits...absolute meltdowns when told to go timeouts. So what did u find works for ur LO?"
No more timeout. Change it to thinking spot. When she misbehaves, take her to the "thinking spot" and give her 2 choices on how to correct the behavior. One obviously being the more reasonable choice. This way she thinks about what she did that was wrong and she will be learning good decision making skills. There is no time limits for sitting in the thinking spot. Leave her there the initial 3 minutes, ask her what she has decided to do to correct the behavior. If she defies a decision, leave her there until she comes up with one. Check on her every minute or so.
For the temper tantrums, we have a "cool down spot". Children have fits for a few reasons, they are tired, hungry or can't figure out how to express what is in their head. That is very normal for this age. They are thinking so quickly that they often can't find the words to express. Our cool down corner is not the same spot as the thinking spot. The cool down corner has a pillow, a stuffie and a blanket (I also have tissues because one of my girls gets a runny nose when she cries). They are allowed to go there and scream or cry as long as they need to get it out. Say she is having a melt down you will say, "How about we go to the cool down spot to work this out then try again?". For the first few times you might want to go with her. Ensure her that it is ok to go there and work out her issue and try again. Often my girls go without me saying anything anymore. They say "I'll be right back" leave and come back after they figure it out.
Kids this age especially need a solid routine. Try to keep them scheduled with meals, snacks and bedtime. This will keep the sleepy monster and the hungry demon from visiting your house.