re: "I cannot handle being a mother anymore" D&D

Quoting ☆stumbleine ☆:" And this is so true on this site."

Extremely. It's smurfing sickening, really.

I enjoy being a mother, but I don't feel that I was born to be a mother or at least not super mom. Hell, I don't even like kids and that has been a big set back for me in making friends. Now don't get me wrong, I love my son and wanted him, we planned him. I just don't like other children.

I enjoy being the kind of mother that I am, my son and I have a great bond, but I'm not like other mothers that I have met. I don't run around boasting about my son constantly and to be frank when I hang out with people I don't really want to talk about my son. Perhaps that is because I spend nearly every waking moment with him and I feel that it's "my time" when I'm out without him. I don't get very much time to myself, I've been alone for most of the past 3.5 years and because of that I've felt at times I just wanted to throw in the towel. It's not that I can't handle being a mother, it's that I can't handle only being a mother.

I love my son but I don't love being a mom. Some days I don't even like it. I would like to think that if I was mentally healthy, I would like it more vut I really just don't know.

I love my kiddo, I've never stopped and I never will. Some days are fun, but some are pure hell. My mother cursed me, told me she hoped that one day I have child just as willful and defiant as myself. She got her wish. Some days I'm just like, "Argghh, is it time for him to go to school yet?"

I can't click on links, so i'm just going off your post.

I don't get why women get smurf for feeling the way you do. Somw mothers simply aren't as gooey as others.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kaysay:</b>" Extremely. It's smurfing sickening, really."</blockquote>

I try not to let those kind of people get to me. Frankly because some women would literally melt if they lived one day in my shoes. Why do so many women stay in smurf relationships? Could be abuse, lack of self esteem, etc....but many simply because being a single parent is hard, and they aren't willing to walk in my shoes.

My LO isn't here yet, but I had to help my single mom raise 6 kids before she remarried, and I saw the toll it took on her. There were days when she loved it, and days she just wanted to run away. I wasn't their mother, but playing 2nd mommy was really hard, and most days I loved it because I love kids, but like my mom, some days I just didn't feel like doing it.
Maybe its not totally right in some ways, but I think you're being honest, and I think everyone can respect that. As long as you know, and they know, that you love them, I think it's normal.

I'm a single mum and I have days where I cry and feel like running away. Being a mum is not easy! My youngest has been going through the really naughty stage which started at 3 and although getting better, still goes on now at 4+. She has started school which has made things a lot easier. I don't honestly know if i'll have anymore kids though.