re: "I cannot handle being a mother anymore" D&D

I don't hate being a mom but ffs I wish I had help with the kids. Why is it too much to ask for? I know they aren't SO's kids and I know he tries to help but I can't do this smurf all by myself anymore. Sometimes I figure if I just run away and disappear nobody would notice.

Motherhood isn't fulfilling for me. I just do what I have to do because I have to do it. My kids are fed, clothes, sheltered, and loved... so I feel like I'm doing my job.

I became a teen mother by marriage and I had to grow up quickly. It makes me sad sometimes.

This part that she wrote really hit home:

"It’s the responsibility that gets to me-the knowledge that forever, I am connected to these creatures-I can never leave them, not truly. "

That's so overwhelming.

Quoting Mrs. Potato Dick:" This part that she wrote really hit home: "It’s the responsibility that gets to me-the knowledge that ... [snip!] ... me-the knowledge that forever, I am connected to these creatures-I can never leave them, not truly. " That's so overwhelming."

I completely feel the same way. Everything with my son ( his diagnosis) is very new. I have full faith in us having a good life but sometimes I feel sick inside wondering how independent he will be. YES I signed up for good, bad and all the rest but I can't lie and say I won't be devastated if he either can't or won't do things for himself. It's hard tell right now because he's so young.

I don't feel that way but I can understand why someone would. I love being a mother. It is so rewarding for me.

Quoting Turd Ferguson:" I completely feel the same way. Everything with my son ( his diagnosis) is very new. I have full faith ... [snip!] ... say I won't be devastated if he either can't or won't do things for himself. It's hard tell right now because he's so young."

I'm sorry   I truly hope everything works for you for the best.

It feels good to read all those women's comment and know that these feelings that I feel are so terrible.. are really normal. So many women's comments said something along the lines of "sometimes I just want to run away to find the person that I was or the person that I could've been".

I wish I had a dollar for everytime I've said that to myself.

Quoting Mrs. Potato Dick:" I'm sorry   I truly hope everything works for you for the best. It feels good to read all those women's ... [snip!] ... find the person that I was or the person that I could've been". I wish I had a dollar for everytime I've said that to myself."

Sometimes I worry that I don't run not because I would miss being a mother, but because the guilt would eat me up of giving them away to a flawed system that could smurf them up. I would never be free of the guilt.

Quoting Turd Ferguson:" Sometimes I worry that I don't run not because I would miss being a mother, but because the guilt would ... [snip!] ... the guilt would eat me up of giving them away to a flawed system that could smurf them up. I would never be free of the guilt."

Get out of my brain, please. LOL. Everything you're saying is how I feel.

Quoting Mrs. Potato Dick:" Get out of my brain, please. LOL. Everything you're saying is how I feel."

Me too on my down days. That's exactly how I feel on my low days.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Turd Ferguson:</b>" We do fun stuff. For sure. I do think I hide what is going on internally pretty well. I am just not ... [snip!] ... not at all. I've always asked myself, does this make me a bad mom? Or a great mom for pushing through these obstacles?"</blockquote>



This, is me, and some times I feel bad for it and other days I realize it's just who I am. I give her plenty of cuddles, but mostly I don't enjoy it. It's an issue in my relationship too, I'm the hold me, love me, cuddle me type. I'm the give me my blanket and get away from me type.

I have days like this... especially when I've been on 'mommy duty' for 36-38 hours straight, with MAYBE 4 hours of sleep... I feel like I'm going to snap at the smallest thing.
I get a 6-8 hour break every other night. I do all the housework except dishes, laundry, and taking the trash out, and I'm getting ready to take over the laundry duty. Sometimes I wish I could just go on vacation until the boys sleep 6 hours at the time, then I could totally handle it and "do it all", so to speak. Heck, if it weren't for anti-depressants, I don't think I could handle it the way it is now! I'd have already just calmly gotten dressed, walked down the stairs, out the door, and just started walking- pull a Forrest Gump, just a bit slower pace   .

It was refreshing to read such honesty. I think every parent goes through even a short moment of feeling this way. I love my children and I don't regret them at all but being mum 24/7 does wear me down from time to time.

I am with her 100% but I have 4 kids. Had twins at 16 and one is on the spectrum. Plus I added two more. The last one threw my life in to a spiral. He is 2 1/2 now and my house is chaos and unorganized. Clean but nothing in it's right place, toys always everywhere. lol. I have days where I just want to hide and sleep it away and I get frustrated. I'm also a SAHM for two more years. What makes it all worth it is those moments with no fighting between the kids and the gorgeous smiles that I get right from their hearts. Those are priceless and I am very lucky to have them. The best is lately my youngest runs out of his room in the morning and gives me a huge hug saying "Mommy you home".. I love it... but I'm also like wtf kid... I'm always here, I go nowhere. lol. `

We are moving soon to a bigger house and I have been chucking so much smurf, and I am hoping a fresh start will help with my organizing which is something that effects me day to day the most.

I started motherhood at a very young age with zero help from the father, but I was very fortunate to be born into a really great family and even more fortunate to marry one of my friends who went as far to not only legally adopt my son, but to treat him the same as our son we have together. Not only that, but my DH is an extremely "motherly" father, so parenting to me now is just not that hard.

With that being said, I was a single, young mother for four years before DH and I got married. I lived at home, but my parents were great because they made me go to school, made me go to college, and made me get a job. They did not make it easy on me, and for that I am extremely grateful. They wanted me to take full responsibility without relying on anyone or the government. That made being a mother harder, because I didn't have the freedom that I felt that I needed so badly. There were a lot of hopeless moments where I didn't think I could go on, and that I wasn't cut out to be a mother. It didn't mean I didn't love my son with everything within me, but I felt as if I failed him.

I give the biggest props to the moms/dads doing it alone, whether they are single, married, whatever.... it can be so trying, so anyone to judge a mother/father who wants to give up has to have it pretty easy. I think these feelings are incredibly normal, and women are afraid to admit because it seems like every other woman is in a pissing contest when it comes to motherhood.

Quoting Kaysay:" I started motherhood at a very young age with zero help from the father, but I was very fortunate to ... [snip!] ... and women are afraid to admit because it seems like every other woman is in a pissing contest when it comes to motherhood."

And this is so true on this site.