Quoting ♡Noah.:" Okay so since the middle of September my SO has been going to this job center. We leave our apartment ... [snip!] ... a new ID to get a real job (and that's why he's going to the job center) but at this rate he'll be 80 before he gets a job! "
Your SO is a dumb ass. Don't bother talking to him. Just get out as soon as you can.. Talk to family.. friends.. women's shelters if you need to. There are programs that can help you get out of a situation like this.
Its hard to do, but you just aren't ever going to get through to him.. and you're never going to get anywhere with him.. and your situation is never going to improve... you and your baby will never be truly safe and secure.. until you get out and start working on doing it on your own. It sucks and its hard, but its your best option at this point.
He's a dick and he doesn't care about you or what you think about anything or he wouldn't treat you the way that he does... so talking to him will do no good at all.