Im at my witts end PLEASE HELP

So Ive NEVER had a panic attack in my life and just a little while ago I did. My hands went all tingly and I felt like I couldnt breathe and like I was going to pass out.

My son WILL NOT go to sleep without me, and its getting to the point where even I cant get him to sleep. I just let him CIO for the first time ever and I felt horrible, but at the same time I didnt even care, because of how fed up I am with it. I lay there with him nursing on top of me for about 45 mins, hes asleep, I get up to put him in his crib and he instantly wakes up.
Start all over again, just for him to do the same thing again.
In deparation as my LAST resort I bought formula the other day for the first time, I mixed it with my breast milk and had my mo try and give it to him and he wouldnt take it AT ALL.
We are going to keep trying but its just soooooooooo discouraging and not to mention my husband is about to start working 3pm-11. So im going to be the only one and thats just going to get my son even more used to ONLY me.
I literally got 1 hour of sleep last night and my son is 7 months old.
I just cant do this anymore and I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO.

PS He CIO and actually ended up falling asleep after about 30 mins of crying.
Should I keep trying this method? I just feel horrible doing it.

PLEASSSSSSSE HELP!!!!!

I'm not a fan of CIO, especially under a year old.


Your baby doesn't know why you're letting him cry. All he knows is that he's upset, and he needs mommy to make him feel better.

Quoting loser mom:" I'm not a fan of CIO, especially under a year old. Your baby doesn't know why you're letting him cry. All he knows is that he's upset, and he needs mommy to make him feel better."

Whats worse, me being extremely upset and him feeling it from me and being smurffy, or him crying and being smurffy? I really dont know.

yeah i think he is too young for CIO IMO.

I did CIO starting fairly early around 9-10 months old. the reason being we were transitoning from co sleeping to him sleeping in a crib. id sit with him next to his crib, and hold his hand but he still cried. it only took a week or so for him to fully adjust.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Galeforce:</b>" So Ive NEVER had a panic attack in my life and just a little while ago I did. My hands went all tingly ... [snip!] ... asleep after about 30 mins of crying. Should I keep trying this method? I just feel horrible doing it. PLEASSSSSSSE HELP!!!!!"</blockquote>




Kids that age just nurse a lot. You just sorta get through it. It won't last forever.
Some kids need extra attention and comfort, it's not in their best interest to be denied that.

Oh I get frusterated sometimes, I lay my daughter next to me and I pick her right back after a minute because it breaks my heart to hear her cry. I can't stand it. I need to get my daughter to sleep in her crib too but she wakes up right away, wish I could help, I'm in the same situation with out the CIO.

I wouldn't, I think he's too young.

What do you do before bedtime? Do you have a routine? Can you play white noise or lullaby music? Is all of the light blocked out?

When you lay him down do you keep him close to your body the whole way down? He might feel like he's falling and wake up. Try putting a heating pad on the spot where you're going to lay him down just to warm it up and them lay him there. Keep your hands/arms around him for a few seconds after you lay him down and slowly move them away. And when you think he's asleep and it's safe to lay him down, don't. Wait like 10 more minutes lol.

Quoting Daniee:" Oh I get frusterated sometimes, I lay my daughter next to me and I pick her right back after a minute ... [snip!] ... daughter to sleep in her crib too but she wakes up right away, wish I could help, I'm in the same situation with out the CIO."

How does she go down for naps then if you cant put her in a crib, do you juust take a nap with her everytime she naps?

Also make sure you're staying calm from the beginning. Babies will pick up on your anxiety. Do you sing to him? Or make the shushing sound?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Galeforce:</b>" How does she go down for naps then if you cant put her in a crib, do you juust take a nap with her everytime she naps?"</blockquote>


She's only 7 weeks. So she sleeps in my arms or chest constantly. She will only stay in her swing for 10 min. It really sucks. I can't get much done these days. She always wants to be held.

Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" I wouldn't, I think he's too young. What do you do before bedtime? Do you have a routine? Can you play ... [snip!] ... and slowly move them away. And when you think he's asleep and it's safe to lay him down, don't. Wait like 10 more minutes lol."

Our bedtime routine is like this, Before we get into the routine I let him play and use up all that energy, I feed him solids (which Ive just recently discovered that feeding him less helps him stay asleep longer) then we give him a bath, then I read him a story while he lays there and nurses, then I switch boobs and thats when I put him on top of me and he will fall asleep like that. Then I make sure hes really asleep (light suckles, or none) I slowly get up, and then usually he will wake up just from that. If he didnt wake from that I gently lay him in the crib, while still having my nipple in his mouth and then I have the paci on stand by just in case and thats how it works. Sometimes it will work. but here lately it hasnt been.

I havent tried the heating pad thing but I have tried the putting something that smells like me in there and that didnt work.
I will usually stand there just to see if hes really down or not.

Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" Also make sure you're staying calm from the beginning. Babies will pick up on your anxiety. Do you sing to him? Or make the shushing sound? "

i do a low humming sound and pat his butt

Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" Also make sure you're staying calm from the beginning. Babies will pick up on your anxiety. Do you sing to him? Or make the shushing sound? "

The anxiety instantly starts when all my efforts have failed.

Quoting Mrs. Galeforce:" Our bedtime routine is like this, Before we get into the routine I let him play and use up all that ... [snip!] ... something that smells like me in there and that didnt work. I will usually stand there just to see if hes really down or not."

I'd try a white noise app if you can too. It sounds like a phase honestly. My LO has gone through plenty of them so I feel your pain. :/