DH crossed the line?

My husband and I have been married for 13 years. We have always had a playfull relationship where we wrestle around and tickle each other. Well lately I have done some stuff that he has every right to be mad at me about. (Way too long to get into it. but it involves another man) Over the past few months that play has turned more physical to the point of him pinning me to the ground and I usually end up in tears. About a month ago he pushed me up against the kitchen sink and put his hands around my throat. It was so tight I felt like my tongue was being pushed out. He did this after we were goofing around and he was still laughing. Well, he did it again the other day but this time it was only one hand on my throat and he pushed me up on the washing machine to try to kiss me. It wasn't tight, but it scared me and I burst into tears. He never appologized. I know that I've done things for him to be mad and caused him to behave like this, but I'm getting nervous. What do I do?

did you tell him to stop that smurf?

You sit and have a frank discussion about how you feel

and if he keeps it up, you leave. It sounds like it could be crossing into abuse, even if it starts as play

Quoting Blythe.:" did you tell him to stop that smurf?"

Oh yes. He knows I was pissed.

It sounds like he's taking his frustrations out on you because of what you did. Did you two go to any type of counseling after the fact?

Quoting Stacey30:" My husband and I have been married for 13 years. We have always had a playfull relationship where we ... [snip!] ... I know that I've done things for him to be mad and caused him to behave like this, but I'm getting nervous. What do I do? "

Uh, no. No you haven't  
There is never a reason a person should put their hands on someone else in an aggressive or hurtful way.

This does not sound normal. At all.

Quoting Jas ♥:" It sounds like he's taking his frustrations out on you because of what you did. Did you two go to any type of counseling after the fact?"

No we haven't. It's not just what I did, it's what I'm doing. It's still going on.

OP, the last part sounds a bit sexual. Do y'all have "rough" sex or S/M play?

Quoting Stacey30:" No we haven't. It's not just what I did, it's what I'm doing. It's still going on."

Well...why?

Quoting Stacey30:" No we haven't. It's not just what I did, it's what I'm doing. It's still going on."

You're going to have to elaborate..

Quoting Stacey30:" No we haven't. It's not just what I did, it's what I'm doing. It's still going on."

are you openly seeing someone else?

Quoting Stacey30:" No we haven't. It's not just what I did, it's what I'm doing. It's still going on."

if you are cheating on him, why are you with him?
if you are cheating on him, why is he with you?

Quoting Just Ames:" You're going to have to elaborate.."

We opened our relationship up about a year ago and he allowed me to see other men. Everything was fine with him and he enjoyed seeing me going out with these guys. It made us happy and really added spice to our marriage. Well, the guy I started seeing in June has gone from just friends with benefits to someone I really like and when dh realized it he asked me to cut ties and he closed our relationship again. I'm still in contact with that guy. It's a f'd up situation, but one I feel he brought upon himself too since he agreed I could stray.

Quoting Spyro:" if you are cheating on him, why are you with him? if you are cheating on him, why is he with you?"

 

Quoting Just Ames:" OP, the last part sounds a bit sexual. Do y'all have "rough" sex or S/M play?"

No, not at all.