re: DH crossed the line?

id like to know how you have time for 4 kids, a husband, AND a mistress(idk what you call guys in that situation? a mister?)

you also have a thread about possibly having an std.....WHY WOULDNT YOU USE PROTECTION!!?!?!??!?!              ?

Quoting JessCleavage:" He may have crossed a line by touching you like that but you arealso crossing a line continuing to ... [snip!] ... to that. And just to satisfy my curiousity......what caused you two to want to open up your relationship in the first place?"

We opened it up because he knew I wasn't happy. We got married young and I hadn't experienced many other men. So he didn't want me to wonder my whole life what it would be like. I started something with a good guy friend of mine, then I found out I was pregnant with our 4th which was my husbands baby and I stopped seeing my friend. He saw I was unhappy again after our baby was born so he opened the relationship again. I've seen a few other people in the past year, but this last guy and I really clicked. We talk about everything. It's like we have known each other forever. He says the sweetest things and is so protective of me. He does hope that I will be available someday.

Quoting Spyro:" you also have a thread about possibly having an std.....WHY WOULDNT YOU USE PROTECTION!!?!?!??!?!              ?"

Lol wow.

Quoting Spyro:" you also have a thread about possibly having an std.....WHY WOULDNT YOU USE PROTECTION!!?!?!??!?!              ?"

I did use protection. It's not always 100% effective especially when it breaks. I did get an std and I did give it to my husband.

Quoting Stacey30:" We opened it up because he knew I wasn't happy. We got married young and I hadn't experienced many other ... [snip!] ... each other forever. He says the sweetest things and is so protective of me. He does hope that I will be available someday."

You should have gotten a divorce if you wanted to sleep with other dudes. That's not what marriage is about. 3 somes occasionally? Okay. Straight up messing around with other dudes? No, not okay.

If you're not happy with your husband then you shouldn't be with him.

Quoting Stacey30:" I did use protection. It's not always 100% effective. I did get an std and I did give it to my husband."

Ummmm I might be inclined to be kinda pissed at you too.

Who do you want to be with? Your husband or this other man?

Quoting Stacey30:" I did use protection. It's not always 100% effective especially when it breaks. I did get an std and I did give it to my husband."

I would have left your ass in a heartbeat

Dude, your other thread said you were staying with your husband for financial reasons and you will continue to see your friend on the side..

Get your smurf together, ffs

Quoting Stacey30:" I did use protection. It's not always 100% effective especially when it breaks. I did get an std and I did give it to my husband."

No wonder your husband is feeling the way that he is and doing what he's doing. It doesn't excuse it but..goodness. You're a mess.

Also you are setting a horrible example for your children.

Quoting .Colleen.:" Dude, your other thread said you were staying with your husband for financial reasons and you will continue to see your friend on the side.. Get your smurf together, ffs"

Financial reasons and the fact we have 4 kids.

Quoting .Colleen.:" Dude, your other thread said you were staying with your husband for financial reasons and you will continue to see your friend on the side.. Get your smurf together, ffs"

Financial reasons and the fact we have 4 kids.

He definitely crossed the line. If you're not ready to give the other guy up you should probably separate from your husband. He will probably get more violent.

Quoting Blythe.:" I would have left your ass in a heartbeat "

It was kind of the risk we both took when we opened the relationship.