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re: DH crossed the line?

Spyro1142 posts
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posted 11th Oct
Quoting Spyro:" if you are cheating on him, why are you with him? if you are cheating on him, why is he with you?"

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WHY ARE YOU GUYS STILL WITH EACHOTHER THEN


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I have 1 child & live in Japan
Kelly&Coralieonline50554 posts
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posted 11th Oct
Quoting Stacey30:" We opened our relationship up about a year ago and he allowed me to see other men. Everything was fine ... [snip!] ... in contact with that guy. It's a f'd up situation, but one I feel he brought upon himself too since he agreed I could stray."


dude, if he asked you to stop, you stop

seriously





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I have 1 child & live in Rochester, New York
Jas ♥64839 posts
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posted 11th Oct
Quoting Stacey30:" We opened our relationship up about a year ago and he allowed me to see other men. Everything was fine ... [snip!] ... in contact with that guy. It's a f'd up situation, but one I feel he brought upon himself too since he agreed I could stray."

Well if you want to be with your husband then you need to cut it off with this other guy. You can't have your cake and eat it too. You need to chose one or the other.
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I live in Georgia
Callista Hall-Confere110 posts
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posted 11th Oct
Quoting Spyro:" if you are cheating on him, why are you with him? if you are cheating on him, why is he with you?"

 
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I have 1 child & live in Utica, Michigan
Spyro1142 posts
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posted 11th Oct
Quoting Jas ♥:" Well if you want to be with your husband then you need to cut it off with this other guy. You can't have your cake and eat it too. You need to chose one or the other."
           
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I have 1 child & live in Japan
Blythe.19113 posts
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posted 11th Oct
Quoting Stacey30:" We opened our relationship up about a year ago and he allowed me to see other men. Everything was fine ... [snip!] ... in contact with that guy. It's a f'd up situation, but one I feel he brought upon himself too since he agreed I could stray."

He brought what on himself? You falling for another man? You kinda need to play by your hubby's rules if he is letting you bang other men
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I have 1 child & live in Indiana
Just Ames107257 posts
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posted 11th Oct
Quoting Stacey30:" We opened our relationship up about a year ago and he allowed me to see other men. Everything was fine ... [snip!] ... in contact with that guy. It's a f'd up situation, but one I feel he brought upon himself too since he agreed I could stray."
Not exactly. Esp when he asked you to stop seeing the guy which I'm assuming was the "condition" in why/how your relationship would resume.

Either way, him getting physical or rough with you is not the answer (regardless).
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I have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in Montego Bay, Jamaica
Lotusmama1607 posts
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posted 11th Oct
Quoting Stacey30:" We opened our relationship up about a year ago and he allowed me to see other men. Everything was fine ... [snip!] ... in contact with that guy. It's a f'd up situation, but one I feel he brought upon himself too since he agreed I could stray."


What he did definately crossed the line. You need to talk to him about what happened and let him know that is wasn't fun or funny and that he needs to deal with his anger about the situation.

The fact that you two tried having an open relationship and it didn't work (never does!) is no excuse for him to let out angry feelings on you with physical agression. I think you should do some couples councelling.

I want to be clear about this - the fact that the "open relationship" idea didn't work out and had unintended consequences (feelings developed) DOES NOT give him an excuse to be abusive!!! If he is really unhappy he can walk out the door, or he can give an ultimatum, or he can talk to you like an adult, or he can suggest councelling, but he CAN NOT put his hands on you with anger!
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Spyro1142 posts
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posted 11th Oct
not only is DH crossing the line with touching you like that, but YOU are also crossing the line. Wholeeee lota line crossing here
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I have 1 child & live in Japan
.Colleen.94649 posts
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posted 11th Oct
Quoting Stacey30:" We opened our relationship up about a year ago and he allowed me to see other men. Everything was fine ... [snip!] ... in contact with that guy. It's a f'd up situation, but one I feel he brought upon himself too since he agreed I could stray."

Regardless of the agreement, it appears he has a big problem with this.

For your own safety, I think you need to step away from him, especially if the relationship is still ongoing
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I have 2 kids & live in Ireland
Andi+Andy=Marley+14554 posts
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posted 11th Oct
If he wanted you to stop seeing the guy then you shouldn't have stopped seeing him immediately. That is your husband you are hurting. It isn't right thy he is beig so rough wit you but I can only imagine the anger he has and he doesn't know how to deal with it. Obviously, talking to you about it isn't going to help him if you refuse to see it his way. If you don't want to stop seeing this guy then do you both a favor and leave your husband
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I have 2 kids & live in Fredericksburg, Virginia
Madi's*Mamaonline6263 posts
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posted 11th Oct
<blockquote><b>Quoting Spyro:</b>" not only is DH crossing the line with touching you like that, but YOU are also crossing the line. Wholeeee lota line crossing here"</blockquote>


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I'm due November 3rd, have 1 child & live in Holland, Michigan
JessCleavage19172 posts
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posted 11th Oct
Quoting Stacey30:" We opened our relationship up about a year ago and he allowed me to see other men. Everything was fine ... [snip!] ... in contact with that guy. It's a f'd up situation, but one I feel he brought upon himself too since he agreed I could stray."


He may have crossed a line by touching you like that but you arealso crossing a line continuing to talk to a man that he asked you to cut ties with. You can't have both, my dear, that's not how life works. You are going to have to choose one or the other.

I would suggest counseling for the two of you. Would he be open to that.

And just to satisfy my curiousity......what caused you two to want to open up your relationship in the first place?
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I have 3 kids & live in Hooker, Oklahoma
Jas ♥64839 posts
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posted 11th Oct
Now she's asking about assistance so I guess she's planning on leaving her husband for this dude.
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Mrs cree1907 posts
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posted 11th Oct
Sounds like he is really angry with you but in no way is that exceptable behaviour maybe you should separate for a while or seek counciling you do not want it to go beyond the point where you end up seriously hurt or worse
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I have 1 child & 2 angel babies & live in Ontario
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