Gone.

You dont cope. You leave a sob like that!!!!

I can relate...and if we were smart, we'd leave....

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Quoting I❤V&B:" I don't really want to leave...it's not like he's abusive or anything. He's a good father when he wants ... [snip!] ... to be. He just doesn't care. About me, his kids, himself, his life. He's admitted he has depression before and I believe it.

i'm kind of in the same boat.
I feel so lonely. i feel guilty but i dont think i love my SO. We shouldn't have to cope with it. you dont want to leave him......but do you really want to live your whollllllee life like that?

Quoting Christina Getty:" i'm kind of in the same boat. I feel so lonely. i feel guilty but i dont think i love my SO. We shouldn't ... [snip!] ... shouldn't have to cope with it. you dont want to leave him......but do you really want to live your whollllllee life like that?"

I feel the same way.

<blockquote><b>Quoting I❤V&B:</b>" I don't really want to leave...it's not like he's abusive or anything. He's a good father when he wants ... [snip!] ... to be. He just doesn't care. About me, his kids, himself, his life. He's admitted he has depression before and I believe it. "</blockquote>



He shouldn't be a good father when he wants to be, he should be a good father all the time. And if I were you I wouldn't be looking for ways to "cope" with that behavior, I would leave!

Quoting Layla's Momma ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I❤V&B:</b>" I don't really want to leave...it's not like ... [snip!] ... be a good father all the time. And if I were you I wouldn't be looking for ways to "cope" with that behavior, I would leave!"

I agree. There is no way to cope with someone that doesnt care about himself or his kids or his wife/so.

My SO..does work hard to provide for us....but he will like rub that in my face (like i dont work hard) I clean, have a part time job myself, always take care of LO..he rarely does and he never gets up with her in the middle of the night but I know he loves her and he does try to provide for her.....but the things he says to me..it's too much and I just dont think I love him anymore. I just got a full time job...which makes me feel better because I know that now if i REALLY want to I can leave my SO and provide for my LO and myself.

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There isn't any way to cope with that other than ignore it and pretend to be happy.

Leave. Not only is he keeping you from being happy, he isn't a good influence on your kids and isn't showing them any love at all.

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:

The thing is, our marriage is unhappy but I don't think I'M unhappy. I don't know. Maybe I'm just numb. I've been through so much smurf that this seems like such a trivial problem.....but I can't deny that I'm lonely as smurf.

but are your kids happy with the way he acts towards them? And even if you aren't unhappy, you cannot say you are happy either. Not like that.

You can be happy, it's just a scary step to take.

Quoting I❤V&B:" The thing is, our marriage is unhappy but I don't think I'M unhappy. I don't know. Maybe I'm just numb. ... [snip!] ... numb. I've been through so much smurf that this seems like such a trivial problem.....but I can't deny that I'm lonely as smurf. "

if you are lonely..you are unhappy. we all deserve to be happy, feel loved...for me i know im afraid of being alone but I think im getting closer to leaving. I mean we can't convince you to leave...but there is someone out there that wants to be with you..that will talk to you, be your best friend, love you! soo much!

Quoting Christina Getty:"