Baby father don't like the baby name....

So my baby father contacted me which is not often (like every 2wks) and the topic about names came up so he asked "What are you naming her" I told him the name and his response was "I don't like that"........This is where I get pissed off. First of all he hasn't bought her nothing, barely calls, only ask about her if I bring her up......SO WTF???? Any advice is much needed I have been nothing but nice to him through this pregnancy I don't argue with him for the simple fact im already high risk and plus he's not worth my energy!!! Anybody else going through this?? Positive advice only...Thankx in advance.

If he plans to be in her life I feel he should have some say in the name. What is the name out of curiosity.

Reach a compromise like you pick the first name and he gets to pick the middle name.

I'd tell him that if he has any ideas, you're willing to hear them. Ultimately it's up to you, but you're willing to hear his suggestions and his objections to the names you've chosen.

And if his objections are crap, and if the names he wants to use are unacceptable, name your child what you want.

if he's not in the picture he shouldn't have a say IMO

Name her what you want. You are the one pushing her out your vagina not him. I think that should give you more say in the name than him.

Are you two broken up?
Sounds like to me you are better off without him. And if he isn't helping out with the baby he doesn't deserve to get an opinion in picking her name. That's your baby, you pick her name. And don't stress over it. If it's a risk to you or your baby, you should cut it out of your life.

Quoting Patience Skelley:" Are you two broken up? Sounds like to me you are better off without him. And if he isn't helping out ... [snip!] ... baby, you pick her name. And don't stress over it. If it's a risk to you or your baby, you should cut it out of your life. "

Yes we are broken up has been since I found out I was expecting. His attitude then was have an abortion! So thats why im drove now cause he didnt want me to have her after previous miscarrying one!!!!!!!!!! SMFH the nerve of him.

if hes popping in and out right now...it could just get worse...don't let him have that power when he doesnt give 100% to this child!!

Quoting misanthrope:" If he plans to be in her life I feel he should have some say in the name. What is the name out of curiosity."

 

Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" Name her what you want. You are the one pushing her out your vagina not him. I think that should give you more say in the name than him."

I agree! THANKX

I feel like not making an effort to involve him in decisions like this will only make matters worse. Doing things like picking a name without asking him his opinion will only make him feel more alienated from the situation and less likely to make an effort to be involved.

Now if you called him a time or two and asked if there was any names he liked or wanted to suggest and he had no say, its different. If you called a time or two and gave him a list of a few names you were considering and asked for his opinion, its different.

Ultimately it is your choice...but its nice to come to an agreement or compromise if you can. Perhaps you can ask him for suggestions (even if your mind is totally set, it will make him feel good to have (or think he has) a say in it). Maybe let him pick the middle name or pick from two or three choices for the middle name. If you are open to having 2 middle names, let him be totally responsible for picking one. Get the idea?

the more you try to involve him and make him feel part of the experience the more likely he is to embrace that and become part of it through his own efforts.

Quoting mmayala:" if hes popping in and out right now...it could just get worse...don't let him have that power when he doesnt give 100% to this child!!"

WORDS WELL SPOKEN! THANKX ALOT FOR UR ADVICE : )

Quoting KHLOE06:" Yes we are broken up has been since I found out I was expecting. His attitude then was have an abortion! ... [snip!] ... So thats why im drove now cause he didnt want me to have her after previous miscarrying one!!!!!!!!!! SMFH the nerve of him."

Well I'm happy you didn't go through with it! Not that I discourage abortion, but if you don't want one, no one should try to make you get one. And it does sound like it to me that she is way more your baby then his. Just because he helped make her doesn't mean he gets any daddy rights! Especially if he didn't/doesn't(?) want her.

I am not in a relationship with my baby's biological father. We never have been together, we had a one night stand (it was the only time I have ever done something so careless & I am not proud of it at all, but mistakes happen. Besides I have my baby boy thats all that matters) & I got pregnant. He went to one appointment to confirm the pregnancy & has only contacted me a few times the whole time I have been pregnant. I am now 30 weeks & 2 days. We have talked all of maybe 5 times, he has only contacted me first once. I tried to give him updates on fb but he would ignorenthe messages. The only time he was even close to concerned is when I found out I was having a boy & he demanded the baby be named after him. I told him exactly this...you don't ask about him, you didn't care when I was told I had placenta previa, you haven't bought him anything or helped me out financially at all, you aren't the one getting sick everyday, your body isn't stretching, therefore you do not have any say so in what his name will be. After I told him all that, he actually agreed with me. Don't feel pressured to rename her just because BD says so. If he was more concerned about her it would be different, but by the way he seems to be I don't think he should have any say so in the matter.