Huge dilemma- need advice!

SO just told me he wants to get married this coming summer. My baby will only be 3 or 4 months old.
I wanted to wait until 2014 because the baby would be much older, and then we could start TTC pretty much our wedding night.
He doesnt want to wait that long to have another baby   He wants me to get pregnant right after I have this one, or I guess 4 or 5 months after.
I don't want to be at our huge bachelor/ bachelorette party we have planned while worrying about a few month old baby, and at the wedding I'm going to have a baby to take care of the whole time! I really don't think I can breastfeed in my wedding dress lol OR the reception dress.
At 3 or 4 months old my son cried whenever I even put him down. He breastfed constantly. I didn't leave him overnight until he was almost 2yrs old! I wantt to be able to save money, have a nice wedding, go on a honeymoon etc but SO is freaking out about his age and he just wants to hurry up and finish having kids before he gets too old (he's 37).

Idk what to do  

ETA: Should I just suck it up and be happy I'm getting married in the first place, or push for it to be a year further? It's a big deal to him to have kids before he "gets too old" but it's also a big deal for me to have a semi carefree wedding instead of taking care of a baby on MY day. Who should compromise?

I am debating that as well. We had planned on a june wedding...well...ahem...I am due in June. So we are debating wether to push the wedding back an other year or just a couple months.

I BADLY want to get married to SO...but I also don,t want to have to deal with a two month old baby on my wedding day either. :/

You can do what we did, just go to the courthouse and get legallay married and then wait a year or 2 and have your wedding!! We are having our wedding next september! Baby will be 5 months!

Quoting Hodor(6 weeks):" I am debating that as well. We had planned on a june wedding...well...ahem...I am due in June. So we ... [snip!] ... BADLY want to get married to SO...but I also don,t want to have to deal with a two month old baby on my wedding day either. :/"

Same here! lol I have wanted to marry him forever and he's always wanted to wait, now all of a sudden he springs it on me yesterday that he wants it to be THIS summer. I'm like uhhhhhhhh....
I just hope he realizes we wont be able to go on a honeymoon, which really sucks. I want to go scuba diving in Mexico dammit!!!

Quoting Mrs. Calderon:" You can do what we did, just go to the courthouse and get legallay married and then wait a year or 2 and have your wedding!! We are having our wedding next september! Baby will be 5 months!"

Sorry, that still doesnt solve my problem at all. I could care less if we went to the courthouse right now and got married. The big deal is about the actual wedding lol

Bumping!!!

I would try to push it back a year or so, having to worry about baby is going to put a damper on the day, especially if baby is cranky, that will just make you feel miserable and not really enjoy the day like you should. Just try to explain (again if you have already  ) why you want to push it until baby is older and will be able to not only enjoy the day with you both but experience it and maybe be included into it as well?

All in all I guess I am saying try to push it for a year, but if he digs his heels in...don't push it?

I think I'm going to write him a message on FB just listing all the pros and cons and saying I dont think he's really thought long and hard about it yet and he should take everything into consideration.

He also told me at 4 months pp I won't be able to fit into my wedding dress yet  
I was like what?? Yes I will!!!!

I say try to find a way to compromise if you can. I understand where your coming from on this. I'm getting married next summer too. This baby will be a month or so old at the time. We plan on getting married at the courthouse and then having a big grill out as our reception.

Quoting Becky☮Will:" I think I'm going to write him a message on FB just listing all the pros and cons and saying I dont think ... [snip!] ... He also told me at 4 months pp I won't be able to fit into my wedding dress yet   I was like what?? Yes I will!!!!"

I think that is a good idea, put it all down so he can actually see it

Lol, You are a lucky one and definitely will!

Ok here's what I said:

Hey. I wanted to type this out on here because it's going to be really long and I can get all my thoughts down before we discuss it in purpose, and give you time to think. I don't think you've really taken into consideration all the pros and cons of getting married this summer.
I'm not saying I don't want to! I do! But I'd be happy to wait until the following summer(Or even spring, May?)
If we get married next summer, I will not be able to enjoy the party while you're partying and getting drunk. I might even get jealous and angry. I also won't be able to enjoy the wedding or reception because I will have a newborn to look after and breastfeed all day long, in my wedding dress  
We also won't be able to go on a honeymoon, and I have no idea how we're going to afford renting a house in February, me giving birth and having a newborn in April, and a wedding in August! It's going to be really stressful and tight on money.
If we wait until 2014, maybe we can do it in May? That's a few months earlier than planned, my child would be 1, and I would feel much more comfortable feeding them a bottle and leaving on a honeymoon for a few days. We will also have so much more time to save money and become established with another child in the house. It's going to be SO hectic having a newborn, being strapped for cash, and planning a wedding! I want to marry you but we need to take everything into consideration.
If you are really worried about your age thing, I can understand and am very willing to marry you this summer because it's obviously important to you. I just want you to understand that it would need to be toned down and not all crazy and wild like we wanted it, and once again I will have a newborn to care for ALL day through the wedding and that night!!! It won't be as much fun for me, and I'm going to be jealous of you and would expect you to respect that.

Quoting Becky☮Will:" Ok here's what I said: Hey. I wanted to type this out on here because it's going to be really long ... [snip!] ... and that night!!! It won't be as much fun for me, and I'm going to be jealous of you and would expect you to respect that. "

Sounds good to me!

Yay!!! He just called me and said he read the message and I'm right, and he wants me to have fun at the wedding so we should wait  
I never thought I'd be HAPPY about postponing a wedding another year but it's not like he's going to run away if I don't trap him lol