I cheated on my army husband of 10 years

Hes been gone for 6 months and I was 8 weeks pregnant. I had an abortion of course but its still weighing heavily on my mind. I traveled with him a lot in the 10 years and kept our daughter at home with my mom but this time I decided to stay in my hometown with her and this is what happened. I dont know if to tell him or to just keep it to myself since the affair is over.

I can give more details if needed but that;s what it is. Any advise?

Tell him. He will find out eventually.

Regardless if it's over, you have to tell him the truth. He deserves to know.

i'm confused. was the pregnancy and abortion from the other guy? if so, i'd definitely tell him, he deserves to know. i mean, he should know either way

I'd tell him. Stuff always has a way of coming out and it will be worse if you hide it.

You need to be honest and tell him the truth

You should definitely tell him.

I would go to the grave with that secret. It could cause more harm to your marriage than you can imagine and I personally would not risk that... unless you're unhappy.

I couldn't imagine keeping something that big a secret. It really hurts to tell him but hopefully he'll be willing to work it out

Tell him. Things have a way of being found out, and if he finds out from someone else it will be so much worse.

Quoting Kiss Kiss Bang Bang:" Regardless if it's over, you have to tell him the truth. He deserves to know."

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It's sad that he trusts you so much, while you were having an affair. Tell the poor guy already  

Think about why you did it, and fix the problem if you want to stay with him.

It's not fair to him if you don't fix whatever is broken on your end if you intend to stay.

If you don't want to stay, just be honest with him about the situation.

I think that was a really smurffy thing to do and you're a bitch for doing it. The only person it would help by telling him is you. You would be able to get rid of the guilt of keeping the secret and he would be the one getting hurt. I actually think that unless you want to hurt him and potentially ruin your marriage I wouldnt tell him. It would just be selfish.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Carol  :</b>" I'd tell him. Stuff always has a way of coming out and it will be worse if you hide it."</blockquote>




Agreed