Quoting Back to Noob Status:" Very good post! I can completely understand why someone wouldn't want to know about an affair. Ignorance ... [snip!] ... situation, their marriage is now stronger than ever. Knowing me, though, I would pull a "Waiting to Exhale" on his ass, lol."
Thanks, you too!
If DH had unprotected sex with someone and then put my health on the line, then yes, I should absolutely know. But, if it was protected and he knew nothing came of it, I would rather not know. I definitely over-analyze every little thing and I would drive myself crazy with irrational what-ifs and insecurity. And like I said, I know myself enough to know that I know 100% I wouldn't leave him solely because of cheating, so I
would be the one screwed if he told me because he couldn't handle the guilt.
I agree, there are definitely lots of people out there who would want to know, just like there are people out there who wouldn't be able to take that kind of secret to the grave. I just think it's one of those things that it's purely situational and just to figure out what would be best for the people involved.