re: Thanks Ladies

Quoting jackie0608:" my so got fired and couldnt find a job. he was unemployed for 2 years i think. we struggled so bad with ... [snip!] ... i turned that song around golddigger. i said you can tell she aint no gold digga cause she messes with a broke .........lmao"

Lmao!! I'm glad your SO eventually got back on his feet. I don't want to completely turn away because I don't know the future, but I do know hwo I don't want my future to be.

Quoting Momma x 2:" Awwww....well if you love him and he loves you and both your children then I would honestly work on ... [snip!] ... maybe work with him to get his GED and move on from there. People change, he still has the chance to get his life together  "

ughhhhhhh!!!! we are going to have to have a longgggg talk!!! He's definitely motivated, maybe I haven't been much support emotionally   There is still a chance...Thanks so much mama!!

if you love him and he is really trying to support his family then i would wait it out and stick with him. but if he isnt trying to get a job and help then i think its ok if you leave him. its not selfish to want your SO/BD to help support the family...its selfish not to try. my SO was out of a job for 7months...but he didnt really look for a new one...he didnt try. i was working my ass off to support us. i told him how i felt about it and that i wasnt living like that the rest of our lives. he got his ass into gear. started looking and applying...he has found one yet but i have seen tons of improvement of him trying...and in the mean time he helps with our daughter and cooks dinner and helps clean. so we are still together plus we love eachother

Quoting aubriesmom:" if you love him and he is really trying to support his family then i would wait it out and stick with ... [snip!] ... in the mean time he helps with our daughter and cooks dinner and helps clean. so we are still together plus we love eachother"

You're speaking my life lol I think I would miss coming home to a clean house, hot meal, and clean kids!! & If it wasn't for him I would be struggling to pay daycare so I can work and go to school. I've definitely got a wake up call. I'm so glad I posted instead of conflicting with myself on what needs to be done. I'm definitely going to try to stick with it and see what happens....

Quoting Lovenikbean:" Lmao!! I'm glad your SO eventually got back on his feet. I don't want to completely turn away because I don't know the future, but I do know hwo I don't want my future to be."

i understand i was so scared for a long time. but i really love him so i stuck by him. im still scared what the future holds but no one knows ya know lol.

Quoting Lovenikbean:" You're speaking my life lol I think I would miss coming home to a clean house, hot meal, and clean kids!! ... [snip!] ... of conflicting with myself on what needs to be done. I'm definitely going to try to stick with it and see what happens...."

Good Luck