Embarrasing but need advice!

My boyfriend and i have stayed sexually active through the pregnancy, but ever since i got pregnant i have not been able to "get off". I know he is able to do it because he has done it multiple times before we got pregnant, but now he feels like he's no good cause he isn't able to anymore. It's like i come so close every time but it just never happens. Also, at the beginning of the pregnancy i wanted it all the time, but now i'm 17 weeks and i just don't feel like it. I'm scared of losing the intimacy that we have. i've heard that its mostly a mental thing and that you should just lay back and enjoy the intimacy and all and trust me, i've tried, but doing that feels like i get closer but still doesn't work. Help?

That's not embarrassing at all!

Maybe try other forms of intimacy, to "keep it alive". Just cuddling, kissing, massage, etc may suffice and could lead to sex

Pregnancy changes a lot of stuff. Sometimes women just flat out don't like sex while pregnant. There are a lot of hormones bouncing around and not to mention sometimes it's just uncomfortable. It has very little to do with any sort of mental issue unless you're freaking out that there's a penis next to the baby's head. lol   (The penis doesn't actually get anywhere close to the baby)

I had the same problem when I was pregnant. Try different positions or some manual stimilation

normal during pregnancy. you have so much going on with your body.
98% of the time I can't climax no matter what we try. it's sore, its swollen, I dont' feel good. lol yeah all that gets int he way

I can't get off either. I just can't seem to clear my mind enough to just let it happen. And he's really good at his job, but I don't even want to think about sex anymore

Yea, even if i really want it i just cant get off, and he is good too, i just dont know what to do at this point.  

see if he would consider oral sex..that would prbably work...

Im 38 weeks and havent wanted sex the whole time.. It's weird to me to be having sex and the baby kick.. Just a major TURN OFF! It's like she's telling us to stop. But as I get a little bigger its like my man dont wanna think about sex and would rather wait till after the baby and the 6 weeks the drs tell you to wait out.. He actually thinks he's gonna poke her in the head, But I was told sex helps labor kick in and I'm so close to 39 weeks and to the point where I want her out already!! Your sex levels should come back after ur baby is born! Good luck..

Don't feel bad at all. My first trimester I was pretty sick, but the sex was incredibly. The only time I ever reached orgasm during sex. Once second trimester came (I'm now in my 3rd) I just flat out did not want to have sex, even when we do have sex, and even when I am the one who wants it, I don't even get close anymore. I've made sure we have sex at least every 7-10 days, but that's for his sake. The intimacy has died a little, but that's because I don't feel like cuddling or anything anymore. We're still just as in love, we just find new ways to be romantic. As long as you keep doing the stuff you both enjoy, the stuff that brings you together, you should be fine. Your ability to get off may come back later in pregnancy, and if it doesn't, remember, the baby won't be in there forever.

Quoting Erin Berlin:" Don't feel bad at all. My first trimester I was pretty sick, but the sex was incredibly. The only time ... [snip!] ... Your ability to get off may come back later in pregnancy, and if it doesn't, remember, the baby won't be in there forever."

Totally agree with you...
40 weeks is long but not that long..
My sex drive went up in the last 4 weeks but his like went down..
But we still cuddle and do other things just not sex..

Thank you all for your advice!!  

Try using toys like a little powerful vibrator. Its very fun  )

hey girl im 31 weeks now but my need for sex was on and off we never stopped my whole pregnancy but it the begining i was not interested and not impressed lol and then at about ten weeks my drive came back it definatly will go on and off throughout your whole pregnancy its so normal just explain it to your bf so he doesnt feel insecure about it cause its not him!! it just hormones  hope i helped