re: seriously???? LONG vent.

Quoting ~*Mommy of 5*~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LOVE4ME:</b>" LOL the only people that think a sahm is easy ... [snip!] ... They earn rewards for taking care of their responsibilities on a weekly basis so i know they will be excited to get it back  "

lol if you find any good employees I am also looking ;) And the chart is a good idea! I will have to put some thought into it....they want an allowence, but I really think they should do things without being paid....I know I do lol Thanks for the idea!

<blockquote><b>Quoting O ♥ G:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting LOVE4ME:</b>" LOL the only people that think a sahm is easy ... [snip!] ... with laundry, putting away clean dishes, and things with DD. But anyways, this isn't a debate about which one is harder...."</blockquote>




One of the first responders on here was giving me smurf at first... And come to find out shes a sahm of one kid. I think thats where the mix up came in.
Your comments have been helpful.

I worked as an assistant store manager of a large retailer for about 2 years... Hubby stayed home with the kids. So.. he should know how i feel but i think he forgets. It WAS hard working 12 to 14 hours a day then coming home and doing what needed to be done. I for sure give props to working moms. But i envy them too for the adult interaction they get. Oh how i wish i had that sometimes  

Quoting ~*Mommy of 5*~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting O ♥ G:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting LOVE4ME:</b>" ... [snip!] ... give props to working moms. But i envy them too for the adult interaction they get. Oh how i wish i had that sometimes  "

Yeah. I agree with you there. The adult interaction would be nice. My SO hardly talks to me when he gets home...I know he is tired...he would rather be on the internet   I was thinking on going back to work....

<blockquote><b>Quoting LOVE4ME:</b>" Sorry if you took offense...I was not referring to your post. Just saying how I felt before I was a ... [snip!] ... And yes it would be hard to be a working one as well...especially if your SO/DH won't share in the work to raise the kids!"</blockquote>




Yeah I would never put up with my SO not helping. That's why I feel really feel bad for OP because she deserves ALOT of help. And I don't understand men that think just because they work they don't have to help at home too. I mean at least with working you can get out of the house for awhile, socialize depending on your job, and just have a little "break" from the kids....it's sad that I'm even calling work a break but whatever lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting LOVE4ME:</b>" lol if you find any good employees I am also looking ;) And the chart is a good idea! I will have to ... [snip!] ... want an allowence, but I really think they should do things without being paid....I know I do lol Thanks for the idea!"</blockquote>




I never got an allowance when i was a kid. I had a "spending account". My stepdad would put money in this "account" for when i did extra stuff around the house... Got good grades.. had a bday... Whatever. But they never paid me to keep my room clean or help with dishes or anything. And i explained to my kids that i dont get paid for cooking their meals so they shouldnt get paid to help load the dishwasher. Lol

I DO have a reward box too. So... Ill get stuff like magazines or pens or whaever they like and they get to choose a reward if they do something extra helpful or if they are responsible all week. Its worked out great in the past.

Quoting ~*Mommy of 5*~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LOVE4ME:</b>" lol if you find any good employees I am also looking ... [snip!] ... to choose a reward if they do something extra helpful or if they are responsible all week. Its worked out great in the past."

I think I am going to sit down this week and do a chart. We buy like discounted toys and such to have on hand...we did it if they were good from time to time....I think a chart would work better....I know that they would feel better if they could help. Hopefully it will work out!

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~*Mommy of 5*~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting LOVE4ME:</b>" LOL the only people that think a sahm is easy ... [snip!] ... They earn rewards for taking care of their responsibilities on a weekly basis so i know they will be excited to get it back  "</blockquote>




The chart is a very good idea   I plan on doing the same whenever we move into our new house in March. And my DD is only 3! I think it's important to instill that a family works together to live together at a young age. I plan to give her a small treat or a few bucks allowance to put in her piggy bank at the end of each week if she completes all her chores. Of course it will start out as simple things like "help mommy sort laundry", "help daddy take out the trash", etc.

Quoting O ♥ G:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LOVE4ME:</b>" Sorry if you took offense...I was not referring ... [snip!] ... on your job, and just have a little "break" from the kids....it's sad that I'm even calling work a break but whatever lol"

Yes I know I can identify with OP. I also know it is hard with 3, so I cannot imagine with 5 and one on the way. I have 3 close together in age. My oldest is a handful to say the least. I hope she can get a break  

and LOL on work being a "break" but yeah I agree...plus some adult interaction.

I agree he needs to be taking care of you and pampering YOU!!! Then again I think all men should bow down to womens feet like the dogs they are ;) LMAO  

Sorry ladies... I had a "screw u day"... I took the boys out to lunch and then we came home and took a MUCH needed nap. Now i feel sick to my stomach and dehydrated!! Uugghh.... Karma?? Nah... Lol. He did just come home and say... "What did u do all day?" I said "nothing" he said "i can see that"..... Oh well. Its not trashed. Its exactly how we left things when we went to bed last night. So sorry i didnt bust my ass AGAIN to have the house looking perfect. Hes already over it!

i'm pregnant with my fourth and have three small kids.plus we live with my mil and bil and my nephew so there is a total of 8 people in my house rite now.that I clean up after,and I cook for,and I do 6 out of 8 peoples laundry.hubby was in school most the time but took a leave last month,yeah he doesn't bitch about anything anymore since he now knows what i do everyday,but his mom and brother have no problem bitching to me about the house being dirty or they don't like what i made for dinner yada yada yada.i know were you are coming from and it sucks lol. and i know after this little one is born it will get worse since those first few weeks idc about house work that much lol.

Quoting ~*Mommy of 5*~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Turtles*:</b>" Well talk to him about it in a nicer tone."</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... of a person. I vent other ways... Im not too confrontational. I keep peace as long as i can. But we will be talking about it."

I was being sarcastic.. lol

Meant no offense.

Quoting JustDucky:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Turtles*:</b>" Bitchy much..? Lol Just take a chill pill and ... [snip!] ... with some help! Your doing a great job OP! 5 is a big family and you are so close! I would have lost it long before now."

You missed my sarcasm.

Quoting O ♥ G:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Turtles*:</b>" Bitchy much..? Lol Just take a chill pill and ... [snip!] ... up my feet and do next to nothing when I got home, but no my SO and I both work and we both divide duties in the home equally."

Like I told OP I was being sarcastic. Maybe I should have put "lol" at the end..

OP I meant no offense so I'm sorry.