re: seriously???? LONG vent.

I hope he starts helping you out a little more... I know you could use it!!

I only have 3 kids and not 5 but I know the feeling. Can't even remember the last time he offered to do anything except spend a little time with them. He brings stuff home from the store and just leaves it in bags. If I don't empty them he says well they have been sitting there for X number of days! Seriously. You need a break! I hope that you can get one!

<blockquote><b>Quoting LOVE4ME:</b>" I only have 3 kids and not 5 but I know the feeling. Can't even remember the last time he offered to ... [snip!] ... them he says well they have been sitting there for X number of days! Seriously. You need a break! I hope that you can get one!"</blockquote>


Your hubby stops at the store?? Thats envy right there! I cant tell u the last time hubby went to the store unless i made him go with me. Over the summer i would have to take all 5 to the grocery and do any other errands. It sucked! I know they are my kids and yadda yadda yadda but its hard.
I DO need help. And since he had to take a week off work for kidney stones he cant take time off when i have the baby. We simply cannot afford to get behind on anything. Thank god for my SIL offering to come stay a few days   im taking advantage of that!

Maybe its the "end of pregnancy" horomones getting to me but i seriously just wanna tell him he sucks right now. Hes become less helpful... More stressed... Less sexual... And more bitchy. I swear HES the pregnant one!

Quoting ~*Mommy of 5*~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LOVE4ME:</b>" I only have 3 kids and not 5 but I know the feeling. ... [snip!] ... sucks right now. Hes become less helpful... More stressed... Less sexual... And more bitchy. I swear HES the pregnant one!"

I guess I should be thankful he goes to the store. He works long hours, and he asks if we need anything...but he also spends too much money...then complains that we don't have enough...it's a tough cycle. I hate it when they complain that they do stuff ....like change diapers....and they only do it once in a blue moon...I know he has only changed a few diapers...maybe count it on both hands....of all 3 of them. But if you would talk to him you would think that he ALWAYS changes them. UGH. Maybe he is the pregnant one ;) I know you must be stressed. I hope you can hang in there. And lord help me if I am pregnant LOL!

<blockquote><b>Quoting LOVE4ME:</b>" I guess I should be thankful he goes to the store. He works long hours, and he asks if we need anything...but ... [snip!] ... he is the pregnant one ;) I know you must be stressed. I hope you can hang in there. And lord help me if I am pregnant LOL!"</blockquote>


Omg.. diapers! Yeah... My 2 year old is still in them. In a week im lucky if hubby will change 2 of them! Im dreading having 2 in diapers again but my son shows no interest in the potty yet. Soon i hope but i dont wanna push him before hes ready.

I swear hubby is the pregnant one. He had morning sickness... I didnt. He has cravings... I really dont too much... He had some cheese fries last night and when he was done he said.. now i need something sweet. Really?? Wow. His sex drive is gone. Hes tired all the time... And he had kidney stones so i guess THAT was his labor! Lol... I dunno. Hes just been an ass.

Quoting ~*Mommy of 5*~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LOVE4ME:</b>" I guess I should be thankful he goes to the store. ... [snip!] ... gone. Hes tired all the time... And he had kidney stones so i guess THAT was his labor! Lol... I dunno. Hes just been an ass."

Ha Ha Ha ...they all get in moods, but deny it...at least mine does. Seems today I am not in the mood to deal with it  

<blockquote><b>Quoting LOVE4ME:</b>" Ha Ha Ha ...they all get in moods, but deny it...at least mine does. Seems today I am not in the mood to deal with it  "</blockquote>




I wont be either. Thats why when he gets home im leaving him with the kids and im taking off for a little bit. I have a few things i still need for the baby and my hospital bag. So screw him! He can stay home and im gonna go do ME for a little bit. Maybe thatll teach him to wake me up at 530!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Turtles*:</b>" Bitchy much..? Lol Just take a chill pill and relax."</blockquote>




That's easy for you to say as a SAHM of one child. SMH.

I have one child as well right now, but I'm in my third trimester with number two and I work full time, and I know it will be difficult enough with two under the age of 5, so OP I have the utmost respect for you! I would have had to go to the loony bin and take a lot of "chill pills" a long time ago if I were in your position! You deserve some help and to get to relax a big before baby comes! I mean it's only fair since you took care of him while he had kidney stones and now you are about to pop out a 6th child for him! I would sit down and have a talk with him about how you need to feel a bit more appreciated and have more help. A family is run by two people and just because one works outside the home, that does not exclude him from helping run things inside the home as well. If that were the case, then I guess I would get to prop up my feet and do next to nothing when I got home, but no my SO and I both work and we both divide duties in the home equally.

Quoting ~*Mommy of 5*~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LOVE4ME:</b>" Ha Ha Ha ...they all get in moods, but deny it...at ... [snip!] ... bag. So screw him! He can stay home and im gonna go do ME for a little bit. Maybe thatll teach him to wake me up at 530!!"

Good for you!!!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting O ♥ G:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Turtles*:</b>" Bitchy much..? Lol Just take a chill pill and ... [snip!] ... up my feet and do next to nothing when I got home, but no my SO and I both work and we both divide duties in the home equally."</blockquote>




Thank u! And congrats on #2!!! It will be a crazy ride at first but it all smoothes out eventually! I have a 10 8 7 3 and 2 year old right now. So i know the stresses of the whole 2 under 5 issues.

And even if i did take "chill pills" i dont think they would work enough to calm a tired overworked undersexed pregnant woman.... Lol. Some people have no clue what its like to be a sahm for real. Its not all tv shows and board games. Its actually making a home and family functional for everyone... Laundry.. cooking.. cleaning... Organizing... And then if u have small kids... Doing it multiple times a day! I couldnt imagine being a sahm of just one kid!

Quoting ~*Mommy of 5*~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting O ♥ G:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Turtles*:</b>" ... [snip!] ... Organizing... And then if u have small kids... Doing it multiple times a day! I couldnt imagine being a sahm of just one kid!"

LOL the only people that think a sahm is easy is one that never has done it....trust me I used to think the same thing before I was......you are a CEO of your very own family!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting LOVE4ME:</b>" LOL the only people that think a sahm is easy is one that never has done it....trust me I used to think ... [snip!] ... me I used to think the same thing before I was......you are a CEO of your very own family!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"</blockquote>




I did not say being a SAHM was easy did I? I too have been a SAHM for a few months when I was moving and looking for a job. But being a SAHM of ONE and a SAHM mom of FIVE while about to deliver a sixth child is a far cry from being anywhere near similar. That's pretty much common sense.

Being a SAHM was not easy, but it's also not easy to be a working mom either....I still have to do everything a SAHM does as well. My SO certainly doesnt cook or do heavy cleaning, but he helps with laundry, putting away clean dishes, and things with DD. But anyways, this isn't a debate about which one is harder....

<blockquote><b>Quoting LOVE4ME:</b>" LOL the only people that think a sahm is easy is one that never has done it....trust me I used to think ... [snip!] ... me I used to think the same thing before I was......you are a CEO of your very own family!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"</blockquote>




Good way to put it... Now if only i could have employees to work for me! Lol.... I really need to get on a responsibility chart for the 3 older kids. We call it a responsibility chart instead of chore chart... Cause i dont pay them for doing what they need to do. Its their responsibility. Ive slacked on it since we moved a month ago but im gonna have to suck it up and redo it. They earn rewards for taking care of their responsibilities on a weekly basis so i know they will be excited to get it back  

Quoting O ♥ G:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LOVE4ME:</b>" LOL the only people that think a sahm is easy ... [snip!] ... with laundry, putting away clean dishes, and things with DD. But anyways, this isn't a debate about which one is harder...."

Sorry if you took offense...I was not referring to your post. Just saying how I felt before I was a sahm. And yes it would be hard to be a working one as well...especially if your SO/DH won't share in the work to raise the kids!

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~*Mommy of 5*~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting O ♥ G:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Turtles*:</b>" ... [snip!] ... Organizing... And then if u have small kids... Doing it multiple times a day! I couldnt imagine being a sahm of just one kid!"</blockquote>




Yeah I totally understands girl! Well not TOTALLY because I'm sure I will never have more than 3 kids, but I understand why you would need to bitch. And I already clean my LO's room two or three times a day haha so I can't imagine FIVE!!! Geezum! You have your hands full!!