irritated w/ husband!! :/

He has turned into a straight a**hole the past 2 years. Since we had our daughter
i feel like I am a single parent!!!. I am just to the point to where I am fed up with it. We are currently living with my mother and stepfather and little brother. and he is straight up rude with every single one of them. he is selfish now, hes a d**k. I cant take much more of it. He does not help me with anything. He works, eats, then sleeps.
I wake up everyday, take care of OUR daughter, clean up the house, make his lunch, cook him dinner, do his laundry. I do everything and I don't get any type of help from him. Unless it's me yelling at him to do anything.. he is just lazzzzzzy as heck !! I don't know what to do anymore. it seems like we are falling apart. And I don't want that to happen. I don't know if we need counselling, our own place, a break for a little.. What???? I just don't know anymore. And the sad part is our two year wedding anniversary is in exactly 2 weeks and I dont feel one bit of happiness or excitement!! PATHETIC!!!
**end vent**

Have you tried talking to him? tell him you are unhappy? Tell him how you feel and all. And if he doesnt give a smurf, tell him to move on. he doesnt want to be nice and help out and all, then get his own place. IDk thats jsut my opinion.

The same thing happened with my husband and myself. We went to counseling off and on for a year and it's drastically changed things... though living with other people adds a lot of stress.

If you can afford to I'd move out... if not, then go to counseling. If he won't or wont' work on things, kick his lazy self out. May as well raise her on your own since you already on top of taking care of his smurf.

Good luck.

Quoting The cake is a lie:" Have you tried talking to him? tell him you are unhappy? Tell him how you feel and all. And if he doesnt ... [snip!] ... smurf, tell him to move on. he doesnt want to be nice and help out and all, then get his own place. IDk thats jsut my opinion. "

Every time I say anything to him about our relationship, it ends up turning into a huge blow out fight. Mostly because I know he knows its the truth and he doesn't want to deal with that. At the beginning of our relationship (5 years ago) , things seemed to perfect. Now they are just falling apart. And I know not having our own house has a role in it. But CA is so freaking expensive and its so hard with only him having a job. I cant find anything for the life of me. I am at a loss!!!!

Look at the bright side.. at least he's working...

I know that may not mean much to you and you don't get any relief from house work or help with your LO, but it could be worse.

Hang in there and good luck!

Quoting Mðmmå Çhï¢lꆆê~ 4dpo:" The same thing happened with my husband and myself. We went to counseling off and on for a year and it's ... [snip!] ... kick his lazy self out. May as well raise her on your own since you already on top of taking care of his smurf. Good luck."

I am just scared to tell/ask him to go. I am shy when it comes to opening up about things to people in person, but I am to the point to where i will do anything for help. It seriously is like he isn't even here because he is always working or sleeping. Idk even know how much counselling is or if there is some type of help out there for it??!!

Quoting Amanda&&Jaiden ♥:" Every time I say anything to him about our relationship, it ends up turning into a huge blow out fight. ... [snip!] ... so freaking expensive and its so hard with only him having a job. I cant find anything for the life of me. I am at a loss!!!!"

I know that feeling :'(
if he wants to blow it out, then tell him SmUrf it! Im tired of this smurf, and give him an option. Because you cant keep living life with him being like this.   

Quoting ★ Raych ★:" Look at the bright side.. at least he's working... I know that may not mean much to you and you don't ... [snip!] ... to you and you don't get any relief from house work or help with your LO, but it could be worse. Hang in there and good luck!"

Trust me I am so thankful he is working because without it, we would be in a huge dark hole! Everything has gone to crap since our daughter was born , and he got out of the army. things are just falling apart! I never get a break, or time to myself!!!!

Quoting The cake is a lie:" I know that feeling :'( if he wants to blow it out, then tell him SmUrf it! Im tired of this smurf, and give him an option. Because you cant keep living life with him being like this.   "

2 years is enough, I can't take much more :/ Sometimes I am at the point of just packing his stuff up and making him leave. I do love him and I do want things to work out for our daughter and for us.

Quoting Amanda&&Jaiden ♥:" 2 years is enough, I can't take much more :/ Sometimes I am at the point of just packing his stuff up and making him leave. I do love him and I do want things to work out for our daughter and for us. "

<3 HUGS mama. I know. 2 yrs is def enough. Stand up to him. and tell him. he probably doesnt think that he will lose you at anytime

sorry engrish is bad  

Quoting The cake is a lie:" <3 HUGS mama. I know. 2 yrs is def enough. Stand up to him. and tell him. "

  I agree

and The cake is a lie.....I want your lying cake =P

Quoting The cake is a lie:" <3 HUGS mama. I know. 2 yrs is def enough. Stand up to him. and tell him. "

Thanks girl <3

Quoting Amanda&&Jaiden ♥:" Trust me I am so thankful he is working because without it, we would be in a huge dark hole! Everything ... [snip!] ... our daughter was born , and he got out of the army. things are just falling apart! I never get a break, or time to myself!!!!"

I know what you mean. I have 3 kids and when DH used to work he'd come home, hop on one of his computer games, and go to bed. When I asked him to do something he'd say "ok" and the smurf never got done. Don't get me wrong, he's a great dad when he would help, but damn it! I need just a moment to myself.

So now, the tables have turned, DH has been out of work since earlier this year and put on disability. He JUST had hip surgery. So now I'm the one working. I come home exhausted and all I want to do is go to bed when I get home. I kinda can understand now how he felt. And now that he's bed-ridden, I have no choice but to do EVERYTHING for the next several weeks.

Quoting My Lil' Monsters:"   I agree and The cake is a lie.....I want your lying cake =P"

I actually have a big round circle of cake right now! soo yummy

Quoting The cake is a lie:" I actually have a big round circle of cake right now! soo yummy"

I hate having GD right now...I actually thought about buying a damn box of ding dongs today just to splurge on my sweets cravings but then talked myself out of it =(
I should have done it now but its too late. LOL