Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" I think it was over a long time ago, girl. You should never let a man speak to you that way or let you ... [snip!] ... still wants you to suck his dick when he wants it? That man sounds like a tool and it sounds like he's just using you."
That may be the way he is controlling her....if she doesn't feel good about herself then she will not have the self esteem to leave. My SO is controlling as well....he does not call me fat just stupid and dumb...then has the nerve to ask why I don't have any self esteem......then if I tell him he turns it around and says I make him do that.........UGH....it will never change TRUST ME!!