Help me!...Preschooler with baby

I have a 4 (almost 5) and a 10 month old. My 4 year old absolutely will not leave her little sister alone. She will take things off of her, clap her hands in her face, roll on her legs, hugs her (not to be cute though, to be annoying to make the baby scream), and the list goes on and on. Since the baby has been mobile She does this everytime no one is looking and I can't watch them every waking hour (and sometimes while I'm looking). I've made it a point to do things one on one a few times a week with my oldest while the baby naps.What can I do to make these incidents occur less often? I'm getting to the point where I can't keep them in the same room at the same time which mean the oldest gets kicked out to go play in her playroom. And the baby now screams and yells everytime her big sister comes near her most of the time.

Could you play with your 4 year old and show her how to be gentle. Overly praise her when she's really nice to her sister?

I don't know sorry, my kids are so close in age that when my eldest bullies my youngest, my youngest just gives it right back

Quoting Mama2WinterGirls:" I have a 4 (almost 5) and a 10 month old. My 4 year old absolutely will not leave her little sister alone. ... [snip!] ... out to go play in her playroom. And the baby now screams and yells everytime her big sister comes near her most of the time."

*darn finger slip. Hit enter too soon*



Sounds like some jealousy. Try getting the older one to feel special for being older. You can also arrange activities that "only she can do" because of her age. The one on one is a great thing that you do. When she behaves poorly, give her a consequence. We take privlidges. Only take what she can earn back and make her earn them thru "big girl" activites.

Quoting Cariad (SuperKink):" Could you play with your 4 year old and show her how to be gentle. Overly praise her when she's really ... [snip!] ... I don't know sorry, my kids are so close in age that when my eldest bullies my youngest, my youngest just gives it right back"

I already do overly praise her when shes nice to her and she knows to be gentle she just doesnt do it with her sister.

Quoting Not tellin:" Sounds like some jealousy. Try getting the older one to feel special for being older."

Just what I was thinking!!

Quoting Not tellin:" Sounds like some jealousy. Try getting the older one to feel special for being older."

Well I'll do something like make braclets with her and I tell her that shes big enough to do things like that and the baby is too young to play with beads and stuff like that but it doesnt phase her.

Quoting Mama2WinterGirls:" Well I'll do something like make braclets with her and I tell her that shes big enough to do things like that and the baby is too young to play with beads and stuff like that but it doesnt phase her."

She needs to have "responsibilty" type things to make her feel "special". Stupid really but, my girls were making their beds and clearing their dishes from about 2 1/2 (clearly they weren't pro's but you get the idea), on. They knew that they were "BIG" and he was a baby.

I hit enter far too soon on my last post. lol

I don't have suggestions because I haven't found anything to work.
Well besides leaving them home with their dad or going to bed early. Then theyre angels... Frolicking on the floor together like they're best friends while he just sits on the couch :/
He's even video'd them so I would believe him.

Quoting Not tellin:" She needs to have "responsibilty" type things to make her feel "special". Stupid really but, my girls ... [snip!] ... but you get the idea), on. They knew that they were "BIG" and he was a baby. I hit enter far too soon on my last post. lol"

I could try that but I do make her pick her own toys up and she just gets mad and asks why the baby doesn't pick her own things up and why I do it for her. No matter how many time I explain shes a baby and can't. But I could make a chore chart or something for her.

Quoting Mama2WinterGirls:" I could try that but I do make her pick her own toys up and she just gets mad and asks why the baby ... [snip!] ... I do it for her. No matter how many time I explain shes a baby and can't. But I could make a chore chart or something for her."

www.freebehaviorcharts.com Behavior and chore charts you can print out!

use it as a reward tool! It will help you alot. She really just has some jealousy issues. It will take time but she will get thru it. Good luck!!

Quoting Not tellin:" www.freebehaviorcharts.com Behavior and chore charts you can print out! use it as a reward tool! ... [snip!] ... tool! It will help you alot. She really just has some jealousy issues. It will take time but she will get thru it. Good luck!!"

I checked the website and it has links to downlaod music and download depression charts lol. I'll google it

Quoting Mama2WinterGirls:" I checked the website and it has links to downlaod music and download depression charts lol. I'll google it"

I get all my charts from there. I have hello kitty ones. You have to navigate thru it.

Quoting Mama2WinterGirls:" I have a 4 (almost 5) and a 10 month old. My 4 year old absolutely will not leave her little sister alone. ... [snip!] ... out to go play in her playroom. And the baby now screams and yells everytime her big sister comes near her most of the time."

Totally normal! My four year old was obsessed with the new baby, especially when she started moving around, it's like a real-life doll to throw around! lol We had to be stern that not being gentle meant time-outs, hurting her was definitely time-outs, and I spend a lot of time playing WITH them. Letting them interact but getting involved to show the older one HOW to play, I think they just don't know HOW to love them so they just squeeze, sit on, roll on, etc. lol don't worry, the second child is always tougher than the first LOL